Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Exactly what I do.sirBill said:haha I've been most successful just not talking about the relationship with the girl. Religion is a non-issue these days for most people. Just smile as she says all this nonsense and go back to bed with her.
Oh and man up, getting hurt is part of life. With greater highs comes lower lows, crank up the intensity and live a little.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Thats what I thought, wasnt fully sure though. Now she just texts me, sorry if i was pushing u last night. Funny part is, she didnt push me at all. Physically yea but we were playing around laughing.Cherokee said:If she says she doesn't trust you fully, chances are she does... and now she wants your security.
Never listen to what a girl says, judge her by her actions. If she does anything you want and is regularly fvcking your brains out, then she loves you.
Give her the security, but little by little, and have patience.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
We both dont know to college(Jobs are complete opposite though), our similirites are more on the general side. Not that we like all the same things but out mindsets are similar. Both a bit crazy, kinky, at the same time very shap brains, quick thinkers, I think we'd make a better team overall then a relashionshiop....still its a bit confusing to me since I was never really in an actually relashionship, I just ***** around once or twice, sometimes three times a week..comic_relief said:In passions, yes.
In general knowledge (for example, college majors) HELL NO!
If you choose someone in the same field, it becomes more competition than a relationship (maybe an overgeneralization but I definitely see it all the time).
Right now, I am dating a biology/geology major while I am poli-sci major. We always have stuff to talk about with each other on different levels. Just make sure she is interesting
Now that's an interesting question, what to do when a potential partner is very religious.Crissco said:Thats what I thought. This girls a big gamer. She said last night we'd never work out for 1. Her religion and 2. bc where 2 similar. Funny part is I override her emotions like crazy and get her to do anything I want in bed. When it comes to relashionships shes scared....Im starting to fall for her and honestly dont want to bc im afraid of getting hurt.