"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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hotstuff56

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i hear from a ton of dating gurus that more than one woman should be dated at once so that the best one will shine above the rest and you won't get latched onto one girl and appear less needy. i'm all for this and am currently seeing two girls and possibly a 3rd on the horizon.

however, the million dollar question is when you finally decide that you would like a relationship with one of them, what is the best way to tactfully turn the other women loose while at the same time not burning the bridge to come back to them should the relationship fail; or should i burn the bridges to them altogether? my main concern is not leaving them feeling like they've been used.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Damian

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The best thing to do is to tone down the relationship to a level that you're comfortable with. If you don't feel like you're cheating, then you won't feel guilty. On one hand, it's not very socially acceptable to have your veritable "pick from the batch", but nobody said anything about being socially correct. Personally, I wouldn't burn the bridges completely. Keep your prospects open, and don't stop attracting them. What really matters is what you're comfortable with. If you feel perfectly okay gaming these girls behind your girlfriend's back, then go with it. If you don't, then try to tone things down.

-Damian
 

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Originally posted by Damian
The best thing to do is to tone down the relationship to a level that you're comfortable with. If you don't feel like you're cheating, then you won't feel guilty. On one hand, it's not very socially acceptable to have your veritable "pick from the batch", but nobody said anything about being socially correct. Personally, I wouldn't burn the bridges completely. Keep your prospects open, and don't stop attracting them. What really matters is what you're comfortable with. If you feel perfectly okay gaming these girls behind your girlfriend's back, then go with it. If you don't, then try to tone things down.

-Damian
i like your thinking. the way i see it, it is NOT cheating if i'm seeing multiple girls without decaring exclusivity with any of them. my worry was how to break it to the rest the day one wanted to be exclusive and i agreed. i've had women have the same thing to me with the whole "picking from the batch" deal so i dont feal guilty on that part.
 

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you do exactly what they do to you


LJBF
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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yes kevin corect.

never burn bridge. you put them away for later just case thing do not work out with special lady.

just like woman put you in safe keep when she have bf so if thing no work with bf she have other option.

you do same. good tip kevin.

i see i not only real man here.
 

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Originally posted by PurplePimp
yes kevin corect.

never burn bridge. you put them away for later just case thing do not work out with special lady.

just like woman put you in safe keep when she have bf so if thing no work with bf she have other option.

you do same. good tip kevin.

i see i not only real man here.
your gay
 
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