"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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dating more than 1 girl

hotstuff56

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i hear from a ton of dating gurus that more than one woman should be dated at once so that the best one will shine above the rest and you won't get latched onto one girl and appear less needy. i'm all for this and am currently seeing two girls and possibly a 3rd on the horizon.

however, the million dollar question is when you finally decide that you would like a relationship with one of them, what is the best way to tactfully turn the other women loose while at the same time not burning the bridge to come back to them should the relationship fail; or should i burn the bridges to them altogether? my main concern is not leaving them feeling like they've been used.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Damian

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The best thing to do is to tone down the relationship to a level that you're comfortable with. If you don't feel like you're cheating, then you won't feel guilty. On one hand, it's not very socially acceptable to have your veritable "pick from the batch", but nobody said anything about being socially correct. Personally, I wouldn't burn the bridges completely. Keep your prospects open, and don't stop attracting them. What really matters is what you're comfortable with. If you feel perfectly okay gaming these girls behind your girlfriend's back, then go with it. If you don't, then try to tone things down.

-Damian
 

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Originally posted by Damian
The best thing to do is to tone down the relationship to a level that you're comfortable with. If you don't feel like you're cheating, then you won't feel guilty. On one hand, it's not very socially acceptable to have your veritable "pick from the batch", but nobody said anything about being socially correct. Personally, I wouldn't burn the bridges completely. Keep your prospects open, and don't stop attracting them. What really matters is what you're comfortable with. If you feel perfectly okay gaming these girls behind your girlfriend's back, then go with it. If you don't, then try to tone things down.

-Damian
i like your thinking. the way i see it, it is NOT cheating if i'm seeing multiple girls without decaring exclusivity with any of them. my worry was how to break it to the rest the day one wanted to be exclusive and i agreed. i've had women have the same thing to me with the whole "picking from the batch" deal so i dont feal guilty on that part.
 

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you do exactly what they do to you


LJBF
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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yes kevin corect.

never burn bridge. you put them away for later just case thing do not work out with special lady.

just like woman put you in safe keep when she have bf so if thing no work with bf she have other option.

you do same. good tip kevin.

i see i not only real man here.
 

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Originally posted by PurplePimp
yes kevin corect.

never burn bridge. you put them away for later just case thing do not work out with special lady.

just like woman put you in safe keep when she have bf so if thing no work with bf she have other option.

you do same. good tip kevin.

i see i not only real man here.
your gay
 
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