"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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dating more than 1 girl

hotstuff56

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i hear from a ton of dating gurus that more than one woman should be dated at once so that the best one will shine above the rest and you won't get latched onto one girl and appear less needy. i'm all for this and am currently seeing two girls and possibly a 3rd on the horizon.

however, the million dollar question is when you finally decide that you would like a relationship with one of them, what is the best way to tactfully turn the other women loose while at the same time not burning the bridge to come back to them should the relationship fail; or should i burn the bridges to them altogether? my main concern is not leaving them feeling like they've been used.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Damian

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The best thing to do is to tone down the relationship to a level that you're comfortable with. If you don't feel like you're cheating, then you won't feel guilty. On one hand, it's not very socially acceptable to have your veritable "pick from the batch", but nobody said anything about being socially correct. Personally, I wouldn't burn the bridges completely. Keep your prospects open, and don't stop attracting them. What really matters is what you're comfortable with. If you feel perfectly okay gaming these girls behind your girlfriend's back, then go with it. If you don't, then try to tone things down.

-Damian
 

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Originally posted by Damian
The best thing to do is to tone down the relationship to a level that you're comfortable with. If you don't feel like you're cheating, then you won't feel guilty. On one hand, it's not very socially acceptable to have your veritable "pick from the batch", but nobody said anything about being socially correct. Personally, I wouldn't burn the bridges completely. Keep your prospects open, and don't stop attracting them. What really matters is what you're comfortable with. If you feel perfectly okay gaming these girls behind your girlfriend's back, then go with it. If you don't, then try to tone things down.

-Damian
i like your thinking. the way i see it, it is NOT cheating if i'm seeing multiple girls without decaring exclusivity with any of them. my worry was how to break it to the rest the day one wanted to be exclusive and i agreed. i've had women have the same thing to me with the whole "picking from the batch" deal so i dont feal guilty on that part.
 

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you do exactly what they do to you


LJBF
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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yes kevin corect.

never burn bridge. you put them away for later just case thing do not work out with special lady.

just like woman put you in safe keep when she have bf so if thing no work with bf she have other option.

you do same. good tip kevin.

i see i not only real man here.
 

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Originally posted by PurplePimp
yes kevin corect.

never burn bridge. you put them away for later just case thing do not work out with special lady.

just like woman put you in safe keep when she have bf so if thing no work with bf she have other option.

you do same. good tip kevin.

i see i not only real man here.
your gay
 
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