"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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BJP1991

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Do you believe in it?

For example, hb8 flakes on you twice in a row, then next thing you know, hb9 is showing high interest.

Or, conversely, you flake on hb7 knowing you aren’t into it, the following week hb9 flakes on you.

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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It doesn't work like that, no matter how much it seems like it. So no, I do not believe in it. That type of belief in karma is always sustained with confirmation bias. You don't pay as much attention to when it doesn't go the way you believe as you do when it happens.

The actual concept of karma seems to be too complex for most people to actually understand. It is a thing, but it has to follow causality like everything else. There's literally no possible link between the supposed cause and effect in your example, so it must be mere coincidence. You can experience coincidences that may strengthen your (incorrect) beliefs and it may not even be rare, but if you can't see a physically possible and logical link between cause and effect then it's best to leave it at that without any assumptions.

Better to say "I don't know" than to let false beliefs guide your life, stay real.
 
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