"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dating in Portugal

Toddy

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I've been living in the UK for 40 years, and am starting to plan for an early retirement when I'm 55. I've been to Portugal a number of times, and enjoy the weather and playing golf, and quite fancy moving to the Algarve.
I'm interested to hear whether anyone has moved from an English speaking country (I don't speak Portuguese, but plan to learn) to a non-english speaking country and how they found dating?
I don't really want to find and take an LTR with me from the UK, just so I can bang regularly.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I've been living in the UK for 40 years, and am starting to plan for an early retirement when I'm 55. I've been to Portugal a number of times, and enjoy the weather and playing golf, and quite fancy moving to the Algarve.
I'm interested to hear whether anyone has moved from an English speaking country (I don't speak Portuguese, but plan to learn) to a non-english speaking country and how they found dating?
I don't really want to find and take an LTR with me from the UK, just so I can bang regularly.
As you might now , most Portuguese are quite fluent in English , so the language barrier is not necessarily a problem ( depending on the target group . Older people tend to not speak good English )
 

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Can you go into further details?
Portuguese women on average are shy . Just as Greek women are

but there are a lot of expats and tourists , so I would not be that worried about it
 

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Thanks, so hopefully the locals body counts will be low.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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