"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The article had some good ideas, but I have to respectfully disagree with the advice that said not to go to a movie on a first date. I've had many movie date first dates end up in bed -- sometimes even making out right in the theatre.

Think about it: you're doing something that gets the gal's emotions running, and you're close to her, which really works in your favor if there's any kind of a "vibe."

Therefore, I'm all for movie date first dates.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I hadn't thought of "300" as being a tool for nookie... Something to consider....
 

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Ha! Actually, some of my movie dates that turned into overnighters were arthouse films that turned out to be rather dark social commentary flicks. Hardly what one would think of as "date movies." But the proof of the pudding is in the eating ... (humpf ... no pun intended, but I'll run with it...)

Actually, I could see how 300 (or ZOO, as I call it, because of the way the logo looks) could lead to wild, animal sex with a tomboyish, fitness freak, martial arts aficianado chick (sheeeiiit, I'm getting turned-on just thinking of it!).
 

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Bonhomme said:
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Actually, I could see how 300 (or ZOO, as I call it, because of the way the logo looks) could lead to wild, animal sex with a tomboyish, fitness freak, martial arts aficianado chick (sheeeiiit, I'm getting turned-on just thinking of it!).
You lust after Angelina don'cha? :p
 

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Eh, movie dates are so typical.

It really depends on the type of girl as to whether or not she'll have a good time or she'll be bored out of her mind.

I honestly suggest something to mix things up on the first date. An action date that gets her out of that "norm" and sets you as somebody unique.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I've never understood the lure of the movie date.
Last month was the first movie date I've ever been on and it's with my LTR!

I guess it depends on where your strengths lie.
I seduce through comfort and charm. It's hard to do that in a theater.

A movie is just 90 minutes of me not being able to work my game.
 

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Two girlfriends of mine told me they got pretty wet during 300... I haven't seen it with a girl, but that'd be a good idea.
Also any funny movies work... the girl stays happy laughing, you both have fun, and you hardly have to talk!
 

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Bonhomme said:
The article had some good ideas, but I have to respectfully disagree with the advice that said not to go to a movie on a first date. I've had many movie date first dates end up in bed -- sometimes even making out right in the theatre.
I don't even think it had anything to do with the movies. They were probably just mad attracted to you from the beginning. You could have probably just gone for a free walk in the park or whatever and still have gotten @ss from these chicks. Fools Mate!
 
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