I'm into fitness and diet myself whenever necessary however I have never given up drinking alcohol since it's a big part of my social life and I enjoy it. I was recently introduced to this real hot girl who is into fitness herself. However, she's currently taking it to a whole nother level with her diet and cutting out alcohol completely. This may not be the best time to try and date this girl, since I won't plan on changing my lifestyle around. Or perhaps you guys can make some suggestions on what I can do here. Open to anything.
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
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Dating Girl on Strict Diet and No Alcohol?
- Thread starter jaymbrs
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
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Those were my thoughts. I was just going to walk away from it but considering she's an HB9, maybe some recommendations can be thrown my way.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
Master Don Juan
It means actually BE fun. No relying on drinks to loosen up her social inhibition. Plan out fun dates, where you ACTUALLY do stuff (i.e. snowboarding, skiing, laser tag, ice skating, etc).
AKA put in some work. I kid. But ****, looks like I have to come up with some creative stuff.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Hell, take her to your favorite social nightclub scene. She can drink nonalcoholic and still enjoy the social aspect of the night out, that’s what women are. Social creatures.
As long as she doesn’t have a problem with that idea, it’s all good.
Just don’t get wasted with her being sober…
As long as she doesn’t have a problem with that idea, it’s all good.
Just don’t get wasted with her being sober…
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Na no nightclubs. We’re both over that scene. So far I’ve recommended getting pizza and beer and got shot down for the reasons I posted above. But I’m thinking she needs to suggest something on her end now. Or do I continue throwing out ideas until I hit one she likes?
No. Leave tha ball on her side of the net for now. It’s a good IL determination factor also.
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When you take her out, review the menu to make sure you're are food choices that both of you can enjoy.
Don't give up alcohol. You never want to change yourself for someone.
She may get intolerant of being out with you if you are buzzed or drunk.
Don't give up alcohol. You never want to change yourself for someone.
She may get intolerant of being out with you if you are buzzed or drunk.
This is what I suspect is likely to happen.
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I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Yea you’re right. I feel I’ve done just enough to let her know I’m interested in taking her out.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
Master Don Juan
Well I mean too many people rely on liquor because if they say or do something they might regret, they’ll just say “oh I was drunk” when in reality you gotta OWN that ****. This gets into something else about strength and whatnot though and I don’t want to digress.
If she’s interested is the key ingredient here. If she’s not, no harm, no foul, and move on.