I'm into fitness and diet myself whenever necessary however I have never given up drinking alcohol since it's a big part of my social life and I enjoy it. I was recently introduced to this real hot girl who is into fitness herself. However, she's currently taking it to a whole nother level with her diet and cutting out alcohol completely. This may not be the best time to try and date this girl, since I won't plan on changing my lifestyle around. Or perhaps you guys can make some suggestions on what I can do here. Open to anything.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Dating Girl on Strict Diet and No Alcohol?
- Thread starter jaymbrs
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Those were my thoughts. I was just going to walk away from it but considering she's an HB9, maybe some recommendations can be thrown my way.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
Master Don Juan
It means actually BE fun. No relying on drinks to loosen up her social inhibition. Plan out fun dates, where you ACTUALLY do stuff (i.e. snowboarding, skiing, laser tag, ice skating, etc).
AKA put in some work. I kid. But ****, looks like I have to come up with some creative stuff.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Hell, take her to your favorite social nightclub scene. She can drink nonalcoholic and still enjoy the social aspect of the night out, that’s what women are. Social creatures.
As long as she doesn’t have a problem with that idea, it’s all good.
Just don’t get wasted with her being sober…
As long as she doesn’t have a problem with that idea, it’s all good.
Just don’t get wasted with her being sober…
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Na no nightclubs. We’re both over that scene. So far I’ve recommended getting pizza and beer and got shot down for the reasons I posted above. But I’m thinking she needs to suggest something on her end now. Or do I continue throwing out ideas until I hit one she likes?
No. Leave tha ball on her side of the net for now. It’s a good IL determination factor also.
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When you take her out, review the menu to make sure you're are food choices that both of you can enjoy.
Don't give up alcohol. You never want to change yourself for someone.
She may get intolerant of being out with you if you are buzzed or drunk.
Don't give up alcohol. You never want to change yourself for someone.
She may get intolerant of being out with you if you are buzzed or drunk.
This is what I suspect is likely to happen.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Yea you’re right. I feel I’ve done just enough to let her know I’m interested in taking her out.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
Master Don Juan
Well I mean too many people rely on liquor because if they say or do something they might regret, they’ll just say “oh I was drunk” when in reality you gotta OWN that ****. This gets into something else about strength and whatnot though and I don’t want to digress.
If she’s interested is the key ingredient here. If she’s not, no harm, no foul, and move on.