"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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shagnscoob

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how many of you guys have bought dating ebooks from this website, like double your dating, or swinggcats ebook?

im wondering if they are worth it, or any good anyway
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I first read Double your Dating and that totally opened my eyes. After absorbing DYD material, I got Swinggcat's book and got a few extra pointers there.
 

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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
I agree, DYD is good.
The DYD ebook is pretty basic stuff, but the advanced series is dynamite.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by AverageFC
you can find them on p2p programs. No need to buy em.
I may be oversteping my bounds but I wouldn't suggest telling people to do that. Many of the people who write these ebooks are patrons to this site.
 

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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
I may be oversteping my bounds but I wouldn't suggest telling people to do that. Many of the people who write these ebooks are patrons to this site.
id buy em anyway, i dont steal things


so is the DYD ebook actually like, stuff i would learn just by reading the bible compared to the advanced series which i would definately learn beyond anything this website and these forums could teach me?
 

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Originally posted by shagnscoob
id buy em anyway, i dont steal things


so is the DYD ebook actually like, stuff i would learn just by reading the bible compared to the advanced series which i would definately learn beyond anything this website and these forums could teach me?
A portion of the stuff is covered in the bible however the eBooks are set up a bit better as a learning mechanism more so than an information repository.

Think of comparing a school text book to an encyclopedia. The encyclopedia may have more information but you wouldn't read one from beginning to end, you would look up information on a specific topic.
 

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I wouldn't be suprised if some of the authors put stuff up on p2p.

You get a chance to see SOME of their stuff, if it's any good you buy the stuff that you can't download.

Personally, although I rate DYD stuff highly, I parted with good money for the Michael Pilinski ebook and it's ideal for the type of newbies you get on here who whine about not having the balls to approach.

I've seen the Swinggcat stuff on p2p and that was ok too.

If I wrote a book, I'd invest in having it printed;)
 

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I've bough a few of the cheaper ones

Dating Insider -- which I may have found via other sources than this site -- was a real eye-opener. Very good stuff about the importance of charisma. It explained just what was happening when I was "on." 5 stars.

Double Your Dating backfired when I tried to hard to force the ****y/funny thing and became a bit too much of a jerk for my own good. Best if you have the gift of gab. Otherwise OK if you de-emphasize the ****y/funny. Best to de-program guys who drive gals away with wuss behavior.

The best of all for me was Miike Pilinki's High Status Male ebook. It's very much in the Pook self-improvement vein. It gives good, practical info on how to make the matter of approaching women essentially a non-issue. 5 stars.

Swinggcat's articles look very good, too, but after the other stuff and this site, I thing a lot of his stuff would be going down paths I've already travelled.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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