hey guys, is it possible to be dating girls, but not be bf/gf? I've gotten about 8 # closes in the past couple weeks, and been arranging dates with them. So i'll be dating multiple girls, but not have them offically be my gf. Think it can work? or will it all just backfire on me? jw
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
yeah you can do it..
i was doing it with about 5 girls over last summer..
but it was kinda broken into groups.. 3 girls a week was max i could handle (seeing them each once) and try to get them in diff area codes..
its recomended u have like 4 or 5 on the line at all times, but i couldn't have handled that then as i was just starting out, and the one which i still liked after a few dates became my current girlfriend (5 months on wednesday).. go for it mate..
i was doing it with about 5 girls over last summer..
but it was kinda broken into groups.. 3 girls a week was max i could handle (seeing them each once) and try to get them in diff area codes..
its recomended u have like 4 or 5 on the line at all times, but i couldn't have handled that then as i was just starting out, and the one which i still liked after a few dates became my current girlfriend (5 months on wednesday).. go for it mate..
check_mate_kid_uk
Master Don Juan
your dating not going out, as its not exclusive even if they find out about each other its not a bad thing, you are not cheating on them as you are not exclusive! it could be a godd thing if they find out as you cna play them againt each other, jelousy can be a helpfull tool and it shows the girls that you are in demand and girls go for guys other girls want!
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
check_mate_kid_uk
Master Don Juan
the asnwer for that would be yes, although i guess there could be a mutal understanding with out words, but genrally its when 1 of you asks to be exclusive.
Alright yeah thats what I figured. Right now i'm currently dating 4 chics, with another 5 on the to call list. I figure I'll have a couple dates with each girl, and if I dont like em next. Eliminate them down to 2-3 truely good chics and mby eventually down to one LTR. We'll see how it goes thou.