So I hit it off with a really cute girl a 9.0 in my books, has the look and smarts that I like, problem is she has the same name as my sister...so needless to say sexual things seem kinda weird. Any solutions, I know nicknames are a possibility but still, in the heat of the moment Id call out her full name anyways.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Dating a girl with my sisters name...
- Thread starter mtlwlu
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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I've only ran into one girl with my sisters' name, but it shot my horse immediately. I would not presume to fight my own knee jerk physiological response, you know?
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Or enjoy the fantasy.
Scars
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I've ****ed a girl by my MOMS name and it didn't bother me at all. The fact that their name was the same hardly even crossed my mind, at least during sex.. I think you're just thinking about it too much. Don't make it an issue, and if all else fails give her a nickname.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
do you have a problem with your sister's name? I dont have one...
now seriously,,, start a nickname for your sister and another different nickname for your girl and within a month you wont have that confusion at all. that will do the trick for sure.
now seriously,,, start a nickname for your sister and another different nickname for your girl and within a month you wont have that confusion at all. that will do the trick for sure.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.