"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I met a girl recently, she is divorced and has a 7 year old daughter. I don't know her age but she must be quite older than me, I'm 29. Currently I'm single and pursuing a couple of girls and things aren't working out as well as i'd like.

Should I get into a relationship with this divorced girl? My intension is just to keep it physical and see how it goes. no strings attached, no emotional attachment etc. Is this a good idea? what are some of the challenges? and how should i make my intensions clear to her without screwing this up?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Divorced women are a mixed bag. Knowing the reason for divorce gives you a better idea. Generally "My husband was abusive, deadbeat, controlling" or along those lines is the standard response, when in most cases she just got bored.
General things they do is try and hook you in' especially when you are younger. They will get their slut on or use emotional hooks to install you as the new male. But they are just as quick to cut you out of their lives if you don't fit, or a better suitor comes along.

So watch the hooks and don't get attached.
 

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And DON'T get her knocked up.

There's a reason she's divorced..
 

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I had one tell me once "I well never love you as much as my kids".
Depends on what you want and keeping your eyes open at all times.
 

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hithard said:
Divorced women are a mixed bag. Knowing the reason for divorce gives you a better idea. Generally "My husband was abusive, deadbeat, controlling" or along those lines is the standard response, when in most cases she just got bored.
General things they do is try and hook you in' especially when you are younger. They will get their slut on or use emotional hooks to install you as the new male. But they are just as quick to cut you out of their lives if you don't fit, or a better suitor comes along.

So watch the hooks and don't get attached.
Thanks for your advice, as i said my intention here is to get sex. From what you're saying it sounds more complicated, am I better off pursuing other single girls rather than getting into a mess?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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personal02 said:
Thanks for your advice, as i said my intention here is to get sex. From what you're saying it sounds more complicated, am I better off pursuing other single girls rather than getting into a mess?
Every situation is different to a degree, but they are more experienced and can be more controlling after the initial hook in phase. If they think you are what they need at whatever life stage they are in, they hook you in by giving you enough of what you want only to subtly introduce the 'take'. They drop you fast if you don't look to be on board with the program.
If you can go in with eyes open you can bang. Hey she might just want sex with a younger guy to relive her youth or she saw 50 shades.
 

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Dear Personal,
Being divorced is not a problem....The problem is her Calf at foot...The Kid being Female compounds the problem...But she will be an ideal Plate!
 
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