"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I met a girl recently, she is divorced and has a 7 year old daughter. I don't know her age but she must be quite older than me, I'm 29. Currently I'm single and pursuing a couple of girls and things aren't working out as well as i'd like.

Should I get into a relationship with this divorced girl? My intension is just to keep it physical and see how it goes. no strings attached, no emotional attachment etc. Is this a good idea? what are some of the challenges? and how should i make my intensions clear to her without screwing this up?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Divorced women are a mixed bag. Knowing the reason for divorce gives you a better idea. Generally "My husband was abusive, deadbeat, controlling" or along those lines is the standard response, when in most cases she just got bored.
General things they do is try and hook you in' especially when you are younger. They will get their slut on or use emotional hooks to install you as the new male. But they are just as quick to cut you out of their lives if you don't fit, or a better suitor comes along.

So watch the hooks and don't get attached.
 

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And DON'T get her knocked up.

There's a reason she's divorced..
 

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I had one tell me once "I well never love you as much as my kids".
Depends on what you want and keeping your eyes open at all times.
 

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hithard said:
Divorced women are a mixed bag. Knowing the reason for divorce gives you a better idea. Generally "My husband was abusive, deadbeat, controlling" or along those lines is the standard response, when in most cases she just got bored.
General things they do is try and hook you in' especially when you are younger. They will get their slut on or use emotional hooks to install you as the new male. But they are just as quick to cut you out of their lives if you don't fit, or a better suitor comes along.

So watch the hooks and don't get attached.
Thanks for your advice, as i said my intention here is to get sex. From what you're saying it sounds more complicated, am I better off pursuing other single girls rather than getting into a mess?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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personal02 said:
Thanks for your advice, as i said my intention here is to get sex. From what you're saying it sounds more complicated, am I better off pursuing other single girls rather than getting into a mess?
Every situation is different to a degree, but they are more experienced and can be more controlling after the initial hook in phase. If they think you are what they need at whatever life stage they are in, they hook you in by giving you enough of what you want only to subtly introduce the 'take'. They drop you fast if you don't look to be on board with the program.
If you can go in with eyes open you can bang. Hey she might just want sex with a younger guy to relive her youth or she saw 50 shades.
 

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Dear Personal,
Being divorced is not a problem....The problem is her Calf at foot...The Kid being Female compounds the problem...But she will be an ideal Plate!
 
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