"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Dating 1 month. Would this be too much to say?

SpazzAttackk

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Ive been dating this girl for a month now. I havnt really ever been sappy or mushy with her because its pretty early in the relationship. Shes a sucker for compliments though and I was wondering if (She told me she had an amazing sleep) Good morning :) Beautiful day for a beautiful girl would be too much.

I normally dont ask for advice when it comes to texting and all that because Im pretty solid IMO at it. But me being in a relationship is a whole new ball game for me.

Opinions?

Mind you this is probably the best day weve had all year up here
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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SpazzAttackk said:
Ive been dating this girl for a month now. I havnt really ever been sappy or mushy with her because its pretty early in the relationship. Shes a sucker for compliments though and I was wondering if (She told me she had an amazing sleep) Good morning :) Beautiful day for a beautiful girl would be too much.

I normally dont ask for advice when it comes to texting and all that because Im pretty solid IMO at it. But me being in a relationship is a whole new ball game for me.

Opinions?
Honestly, Just be authentic but don't comprimise your integrity...women work with their egos...so they want your accepntance and validation from u...so alot of times once they get that they r done...idk much about your relationship...but im just gonna leave ti with be your self...and if your self is "weak" then work on your self...its hard to say do that or dont while not being involved in the sittuation.
 

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Personally I wouldn't, even though you may want to tell her how beautiful you think she is it can work against you. She probably already knows she's good looking as every other guy has told her so already. And if you're going out with her she already knows you're into her so there's no need to get all soppy by giving her unwarranted compliments.

Stick to the small ones like 'you've got sexy eyes' or 'I could just bite your ass' lol
 

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I ****ing sent it. Oh well, im sure one small booboo wont kill it. And if it does, good riddance I say

She replied with im glad I make you feel that way asked how im doing etc. I could probably work with that and make it into an innuendo. Drawing blanks though, lacking sleep. Anyone wanna innuendo-ise that for me? I never usually ask people to talk for me but tbh dont really care right now
 

Neon Owl

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I'd probably say something like 'Would be better if i was waking up next to you ;)'
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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old_skoolr

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I'd go further and say

"Would be better if I woke up next to you ;) and you asked me what do i want fo breakfeast?"
 

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"I havnt really ever been sappy or mushy with her because its pretty early in the relationship."

Is is never ok to be sappy or mushy.

Did you have sex with her?

Why are you initiating any text with her except to ask for or confirm dates?

Why are you using cliche words like beautiful - and twice in the same sentence? A lot of girls say "I know" when you tell them they are beautiful.

Your inner wuss is showing itself.
 

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"She replied with im glad I make you feel that way"

Translation:
Eh, whatever, uh, I should thank him or something.

Complementing through texts really doesn't do you any good.
 

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Your first mistake was coming to this forum for dating advice.

Say whatever you want. To whoever you want.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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SpazzAttackk

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Oh nooo I called a girl beautiful its the end of the world oh noo.

No, but I actually understand what you guys are getting at. I felt like ***** boy mcgee when I sent it. I think my slow replies and indifference negated that blasphemy though
 
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