"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Dating 1 month. Would this be too much to say?

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Ive been dating this girl for a month now. I havnt really ever been sappy or mushy with her because its pretty early in the relationship. Shes a sucker for compliments though and I was wondering if (She told me she had an amazing sleep) Good morning :) Beautiful day for a beautiful girl would be too much.

I normally dont ask for advice when it comes to texting and all that because Im pretty solid IMO at it. But me being in a relationship is a whole new ball game for me.

Opinions?

Mind you this is probably the best day weve had all year up here
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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SpazzAttackk said:
Ive been dating this girl for a month now. I havnt really ever been sappy or mushy with her because its pretty early in the relationship. Shes a sucker for compliments though and I was wondering if (She told me she had an amazing sleep) Good morning :) Beautiful day for a beautiful girl would be too much.

I normally dont ask for advice when it comes to texting and all that because Im pretty solid IMO at it. But me being in a relationship is a whole new ball game for me.

Opinions?
Honestly, Just be authentic but don't comprimise your integrity...women work with their egos...so they want your accepntance and validation from u...so alot of times once they get that they r done...idk much about your relationship...but im just gonna leave ti with be your self...and if your self is "weak" then work on your self...its hard to say do that or dont while not being involved in the sittuation.
 

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Personally I wouldn't, even though you may want to tell her how beautiful you think she is it can work against you. She probably already knows she's good looking as every other guy has told her so already. And if you're going out with her she already knows you're into her so there's no need to get all soppy by giving her unwarranted compliments.

Stick to the small ones like 'you've got sexy eyes' or 'I could just bite your ass' lol
 

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I ****ing sent it. Oh well, im sure one small booboo wont kill it. And if it does, good riddance I say

She replied with im glad I make you feel that way asked how im doing etc. I could probably work with that and make it into an innuendo. Drawing blanks though, lacking sleep. Anyone wanna innuendo-ise that for me? I never usually ask people to talk for me but tbh dont really care right now
 

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I'd probably say something like 'Would be better if i was waking up next to you ;)'
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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old_skoolr

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I'd go further and say

"Would be better if I woke up next to you ;) and you asked me what do i want fo breakfeast?"
 

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"I havnt really ever been sappy or mushy with her because its pretty early in the relationship."

Is is never ok to be sappy or mushy.

Did you have sex with her?

Why are you initiating any text with her except to ask for or confirm dates?

Why are you using cliche words like beautiful - and twice in the same sentence? A lot of girls say "I know" when you tell them they are beautiful.

Your inner wuss is showing itself.
 

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"She replied with im glad I make you feel that way"

Translation:
Eh, whatever, uh, I should thank him or something.

Complementing through texts really doesn't do you any good.
 

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Your first mistake was coming to this forum for dating advice.

Say whatever you want. To whoever you want.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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SpazzAttackk

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Oh nooo I called a girl beautiful its the end of the world oh noo.

No, but I actually understand what you guys are getting at. I felt like ***** boy mcgee when I sent it. I think my slow replies and indifference negated that blasphemy though
 
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