"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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What I do on a date? How come some of you go on a date and end in bed?

I was on many dates but they all sucked ass. I mean i had nice conversation with some (other girls were boring) but these that i thought the converstation is nice didnt like me. Hmm.

I mean there must be particular traits about my character/look that tends to scare away decent looking girls. not all of them, but most.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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If you want to end up in bed on the first date, there are a few things that need to happen to maximize your chances:

1) She has to have high initial interest. The higher the interest, the less work you have to do.
2) You have to get to kissing and touching. If you can't get to this point, get out of there. You aren't getting the sex that night.
3) You have to be persistent. Just because she rejects your advances, doesn't mean she is rejecting you. If she's not interested, she will just leave. If she stays, she wants to be there. You have to push the envelope as far as possible without her leaving.
4) The logistics have to be in play. If she has to get in her car, you're finished. Your best bet is by foot, cab, uber, or your own car. Keep the trip short unless you can continue escalate in the car. You want to start within striking distance to your place, her place, or a hotel.
5) You have to be willing to spend money. Few women will **** off one drink on the first. You'll need to change venues. Go to a few bars. Each bar feels like a different date to her. If you aren't willing to shell out $100, just get a hooker.

The odds of first date sex are usually quite low unless she's a certified *****. Statistically, you're best off softening her up over 2-3 dates.
 

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If you want to end up in bed on the first date, there are a few things that need to happen to maximize your chances:

1) She has to have high initial interest. The higher the interest, the less work you have to do.
2) You have to get to kissing and touching. If you can't get to this point, get out of there. You aren't getting the sex that night.
3) You have to be persistent. Just because she rejects your advances, doesn't mean she is rejecting you. If she's not interested, she will just leave. If she stays, she wants to be there. You have to push the envelope as far as possible without her leaving.
4) The logistics have to be in play. If she has to get in her car, you're finished. Your best bet is by foot, cab, uber, or your own car. Keep the trip short unless you can continue escalate in the car. You want to start within striking distance to your place, her place, or a hotel.
5) You have to be willing to spend money. Few women will **** off one drink on the first. You'll need to change venues. Go to a few bars. Each bar feels like a different date to her. If you aren't willing to shell out $100, just get a hooker.

The odds of first date sex are usually quite low unless she's a certified *****. Statistically, you're best off softening her up over 2-3 dates.
Well it works if she's a wh0re, I had a date friday night and everything went fine, We kissed, we touched, it was pretty intense and she was very wet but I've been too persistant. I ate her Pussay but she told me to stop and her interest dropped in the morning.. Took her home, told her that I was sorry for being too persistent, no response. She a clear 8/10, She's intelligent, classy, not a wh0re and I ended up to do it the wrong way.. She's not a typical party girl ho e and I'm not used to that. Didnt taught it would turn her off
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Well it works if she's a wh0re, I had a date friday night and everything went fine, We kissed, we touched, it was pretty intense and she was very wet but I've been too persistant. I ate her Pussay but she told me to stop and her interest dropped in the morning.. Took her home, told her that I was sorry for being too persistent, no response. She a clear 8/10, She's intelligent, classy, not a wh0re and I ended up to do it the wrong way.. She's not a typical party girl ho e and I'm not used to that. Didnt taught it would turn her off
Just realize there ARE women who are NOT going to sleep with you on the first outing. You should set things up to your advantage and you should escalate of course (since you don't know at the outset which girls will and which girls won't) but also understand that it IS possible to be too sexually aggressive, and if you are she may not accept another date with you if she values her reputation and gets the idea that you want sex so bad you couldn't care less about her.

So you need to calibrate your behavior and pay attention to how she is responding to you.

I for one am really put off by a man who is over the top sexually aggressive. I love a sexy man but I won't tolerate an impatient or boorish man. Learn the difference.
 

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if you want to sleep with a woman on your first date then that is the goal. Not interesting conversation. who gives a s hit about the conversation. You want se x. you have to use kino and make the date sexual.
 

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For a quality woman, your tolerance/ patience toward her resistance is her qualification of you. Of course, this is a fine balancing act.
 

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What I do on a date? How come some of you go on a date and end in bed?

I was on many dates but they all sucked ass. I mean i had nice conversation with some (other girls were boring) but these that i thought the converstation is nice didnt like me. Hmm.

I mean there must be particular traits about my character/look that tends to scare away decent looking girls. not all of them, but most.
Are you there to converse with them like their gay friends or are you there to try and fvck them? If you act like their gay friend, that's what they will treat you like. If you want them to like you, you need to get sexual with them and show them you are interested.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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