"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Hey guys,

I am going on a date this Saturday with my exgirlfriend. She broke it with me 6 months back primarily due to my self esteem / confidence, and needyness issues (went through a period of depression with her) - got through the depression successfully.

She has her guard up, and seems to not respond well to blatant kino (hugging).

We are going for a hike - any advice to get her interest and attraction level toward me back up? This date (or chance) could make or break things. I want to make progress, even if its tiny steps.

My strategy: Keep things light and fun. Cautiously input subtle kino, and build it up from there. Keep conversations flowing, input funny remarks here and there. Bring a camera for pictures (she is into taking pictures of leaves during fall). Shes an art student by the way (if that helps).

Most importantly, I need to soften her up slowly and gently to bypass here guard - It is important that she becomes comfortable with my touch again.

Thoughts?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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A) This is a horrible and weird idea and completely regressive for your self-esteem and confidence

B) Since you probably won't heed that advice, just internalize the feeling of not caring whether she comes back or not. Dont fake it, dont sell it to yourself, be legitimately over her and you will probably have some success. Until you have that, my guess is you are SOL and shouldn't go out on a "date" with her
 
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Alright i think the biggest thing in this situation is that she thinks she has total power over you... for the simple fact that she probably thinks you want her back so badly that you'll practically do ANYTHING!!

my advice is to just to relax.. u dont have to pull some canned routine on her to draw back her attraction.. she has agreed to go on this "date" with you already, so their has to be something shes interested in... play the fun friend and keep your cool.. shes gonna test your manlyness.. recognize these tests and shoot em back at her..

good luck and like i said play the fun flirty friend

-Brian
 
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WhitePimp said:
A) This is a horrible and weird idea and completely regressive for your self-esteem and confidence
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So true......
 
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