My Name is Nobody
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My next date... nothing can stop me now.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
"Can't buy me love, everybody tells me soMacAvoy said:One legged hor's!
Hahaha, I never thought I would hear this on SoSuave - let alone not coming from me!!!MacAvoy said:One legged hor's!
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You are right. I have said it too and I'm divorced with two kids, so women in my life (which I have already phucked PRIOR to saying such statement) know I'm full of crap.jophil28 said:This is the problem of learning and reciting wiseass "lines" that you pick up here or from the gurus . The context and SETTING needs to be just right when you say them and that takes skill and practice.
Saying that you are a "virgin" at your age (27) was clumsy because it MIGHT have been true in her mind.
A guy my age can say that stuff knowing that it will come off as C&F .
If a person is "baiting"...that authomatically makes that person a TROLL.Tazman said:lol, I bet you enjoy every minute of it too. I also find it amusing that you bait the same group of people over and over again, but they can't resist responding so you ultimately get what you want anyway. I actually enjoy your presence here because you are a definitive example of what we deal with everyday, it keeps the senses sharp!
Iqqi is lonely? Damn is she in the area?Latinoman said:If a person is "baiting"...that authomatically makes that person a TROLL.
And she is not an example of what we deal every day. She is just a lonely woman looking for attention. She can BS lot of you guys...but not the most experience of us.
That IS what I see everyday to varying degrees. Any time you spend responding in length to her posts when it's clear you will never meet a middle ground simply because she is a woman posting in a "mens" forum about "female imperatives" you have succumb to "BS".Latinoman said:Tazman said:lol, I bet you enjoy every minute of it too. I also find it amusing that you bait the same group of people over and over again, but they can't resist responding so you ultimately get what you want anyway. I actually enjoy your presence here because you are a definitive example of what we deal with everyday, it keeps the senses sharp!
If a person is "baiting"...that authomatically makes that person a TROLL.
And she is not an example of what we deal every day. She is just a lonely woman looking for attention. She can BS lot of you guys...but not the most experience of us.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
This is the 2nd date with her so it should go well. Not sure I need to make a thread about it. Unless something weird and strange pops up, and with my luck, it will!iqqi said:
MNIN you should make another thread on the brazilian chick for us all to dissect into a 15 page thread.![]()
I would make a new thread for all your new dates. For 2 reasons, its too hard for people to catch up to a 15 page thread when in reality the issue is only 2 pages long.My Name is Nobody said:This is the 2nd date with her so it should go well. Not sure I need to make a thread about it. Unless something weird and strange pops up, and with my luck, it will!
I never look back at my old posts, and I don't need a new thread this weekend will be great.MacAvoy said:I would make a new thread for all your new dates. For 2 reasons, its too hard for people to catch up to a 15 page thread when in reality the issue is only 2 pages long.
Secondly it gives you a record to look back on of your progress.
Its good to have a positive frame for this weekend. But your showing part of what your problem is, in order to grow you need to learn, you may not look back at your posts now, but some day you might want to.My Name is Nobody said:I never look back at my old posts, and I don't need a new thread this weekend will be great.
3rd date would still be rushing things.I guess my only question at this point, is how to get her back to my place...
Actually it's probably to soon to invite her back to my place I don't want to rush anything. I'll save that for the 3rd date.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I am searching for a long term FB girlfriend, or two...Mr. Me said:3rd date would still be rushing things.
Let me ask you, what's your goal with women? Is it to have a series of ONS, get a FB, find a long term girlfriend?
This is not different than a locker room. I get laid quite a bit.iqqi said:Wow I wasn't aware that my contribution to MNIN's situation was affecting some of you so.
So if I am a lonely woman for posting on here, what does that make all of you?
At least I am on a website full of men... (as a woman).
Not a man on a website full of men! Interesting?
That is the last I will say on this thread, MNIN you should make another thread on the brazilian chick for us all to dissect into a 15 page thread.![]()