My Name is Nobody
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My next date... nothing can stop me now.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
"Can't buy me love, everybody tells me soMacAvoy said:One legged hor's!
Hahaha, I never thought I would hear this on SoSuave - let alone not coming from me!!!MacAvoy said:One legged hor's!
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You are right. I have said it too and I'm divorced with two kids, so women in my life (which I have already phucked PRIOR to saying such statement) know I'm full of crap.jophil28 said:This is the problem of learning and reciting wiseass "lines" that you pick up here or from the gurus . The context and SETTING needs to be just right when you say them and that takes skill and practice.
Saying that you are a "virgin" at your age (27) was clumsy because it MIGHT have been true in her mind.
A guy my age can say that stuff knowing that it will come off as C&F .
If a person is "baiting"...that authomatically makes that person a TROLL.Tazman said:lol, I bet you enjoy every minute of it too. I also find it amusing that you bait the same group of people over and over again, but they can't resist responding so you ultimately get what you want anyway. I actually enjoy your presence here because you are a definitive example of what we deal with everyday, it keeps the senses sharp!
Iqqi is lonely? Damn is she in the area?Latinoman said:If a person is "baiting"...that authomatically makes that person a TROLL.
And she is not an example of what we deal every day. She is just a lonely woman looking for attention. She can BS lot of you guys...but not the most experience of us.
That IS what I see everyday to varying degrees. Any time you spend responding in length to her posts when it's clear you will never meet a middle ground simply because she is a woman posting in a "mens" forum about "female imperatives" you have succumb to "BS".Latinoman said:Tazman said:lol, I bet you enjoy every minute of it too. I also find it amusing that you bait the same group of people over and over again, but they can't resist responding so you ultimately get what you want anyway. I actually enjoy your presence here because you are a definitive example of what we deal with everyday, it keeps the senses sharp!
If a person is "baiting"...that authomatically makes that person a TROLL.
And she is not an example of what we deal every day. She is just a lonely woman looking for attention. She can BS lot of you guys...but not the most experience of us.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
This is the 2nd date with her so it should go well. Not sure I need to make a thread about it. Unless something weird and strange pops up, and with my luck, it will!iqqi said:
MNIN you should make another thread on the brazilian chick for us all to dissect into a 15 page thread.![]()
I would make a new thread for all your new dates. For 2 reasons, its too hard for people to catch up to a 15 page thread when in reality the issue is only 2 pages long.My Name is Nobody said:This is the 2nd date with her so it should go well. Not sure I need to make a thread about it. Unless something weird and strange pops up, and with my luck, it will!
I never look back at my old posts, and I don't need a new thread this weekend will be great.MacAvoy said:I would make a new thread for all your new dates. For 2 reasons, its too hard for people to catch up to a 15 page thread when in reality the issue is only 2 pages long.
Secondly it gives you a record to look back on of your progress.
Its good to have a positive frame for this weekend. But your showing part of what your problem is, in order to grow you need to learn, you may not look back at your posts now, but some day you might want to.My Name is Nobody said:I never look back at my old posts, and I don't need a new thread this weekend will be great.
3rd date would still be rushing things.I guess my only question at this point, is how to get her back to my place...
Actually it's probably to soon to invite her back to my place I don't want to rush anything. I'll save that for the 3rd date.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I am searching for a long term FB girlfriend, or two...Mr. Me said:3rd date would still be rushing things.
Let me ask you, what's your goal with women? Is it to have a series of ONS, get a FB, find a long term girlfriend?
This is not different than a locker room. I get laid quite a bit.iqqi said:Wow I wasn't aware that my contribution to MNIN's situation was affecting some of you so.
So if I am a lonely woman for posting on here, what does that make all of you?
At least I am on a website full of men... (as a woman).
Not a man on a website full of men! Interesting?
That is the last I will say on this thread, MNIN you should make another thread on the brazilian chick for us all to dissect into a 15 page thread.![]()