My Name is Nobody
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My next date... nothing can stop me now.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
"Can't buy me love, everybody tells me soMacAvoy said:One legged hor's!
Hahaha, I never thought I would hear this on SoSuave - let alone not coming from me!!!MacAvoy said:One legged hor's!
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You are right. I have said it too and I'm divorced with two kids, so women in my life (which I have already phucked PRIOR to saying such statement) know I'm full of crap.jophil28 said:This is the problem of learning and reciting wiseass "lines" that you pick up here or from the gurus . The context and SETTING needs to be just right when you say them and that takes skill and practice.
Saying that you are a "virgin" at your age (27) was clumsy because it MIGHT have been true in her mind.
A guy my age can say that stuff knowing that it will come off as C&F .
If a person is "baiting"...that authomatically makes that person a TROLL.Tazman said:lol, I bet you enjoy every minute of it too. I also find it amusing that you bait the same group of people over and over again, but they can't resist responding so you ultimately get what you want anyway. I actually enjoy your presence here because you are a definitive example of what we deal with everyday, it keeps the senses sharp!
Iqqi is lonely? Damn is she in the area?Latinoman said:If a person is "baiting"...that authomatically makes that person a TROLL.
And she is not an example of what we deal every day. She is just a lonely woman looking for attention. She can BS lot of you guys...but not the most experience of us.
That IS what I see everyday to varying degrees. Any time you spend responding in length to her posts when it's clear you will never meet a middle ground simply because she is a woman posting in a "mens" forum about "female imperatives" you have succumb to "BS".Latinoman said:Tazman said:lol, I bet you enjoy every minute of it too. I also find it amusing that you bait the same group of people over and over again, but they can't resist responding so you ultimately get what you want anyway. I actually enjoy your presence here because you are a definitive example of what we deal with everyday, it keeps the senses sharp!
If a person is "baiting"...that authomatically makes that person a TROLL.
And she is not an example of what we deal every day. She is just a lonely woman looking for attention. She can BS lot of you guys...but not the most experience of us.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
This is the 2nd date with her so it should go well. Not sure I need to make a thread about it. Unless something weird and strange pops up, and with my luck, it will!iqqi said:
MNIN you should make another thread on the brazilian chick for us all to dissect into a 15 page thread.![]()
I would make a new thread for all your new dates. For 2 reasons, its too hard for people to catch up to a 15 page thread when in reality the issue is only 2 pages long.My Name is Nobody said:This is the 2nd date with her so it should go well. Not sure I need to make a thread about it. Unless something weird and strange pops up, and with my luck, it will!
I never look back at my old posts, and I don't need a new thread this weekend will be great.MacAvoy said:I would make a new thread for all your new dates. For 2 reasons, its too hard for people to catch up to a 15 page thread when in reality the issue is only 2 pages long.
Secondly it gives you a record to look back on of your progress.
Its good to have a positive frame for this weekend. But your showing part of what your problem is, in order to grow you need to learn, you may not look back at your posts now, but some day you might want to.My Name is Nobody said:I never look back at my old posts, and I don't need a new thread this weekend will be great.
3rd date would still be rushing things.I guess my only question at this point, is how to get her back to my place...
Actually it's probably to soon to invite her back to my place I don't want to rush anything. I'll save that for the 3rd date.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I am searching for a long term FB girlfriend, or two...Mr. Me said:3rd date would still be rushing things.
Let me ask you, what's your goal with women? Is it to have a series of ONS, get a FB, find a long term girlfriend?
This is not different than a locker room. I get laid quite a bit.iqqi said:Wow I wasn't aware that my contribution to MNIN's situation was affecting some of you so.
So if I am a lonely woman for posting on here, what does that make all of you?
At least I am on a website full of men... (as a woman).
Not a man on a website full of men! Interesting?
That is the last I will say on this thread, MNIN you should make another thread on the brazilian chick for us all to dissect into a 15 page thread.![]()