Date went well until.. we got outside and she saw my car then it went south quick

[pete101]

Of course is not all. But lets make an experiment, I bet OP doesn't have an attractive body, @pete101 how much you weight and your height? also are you jacked with a six pack?

Used to have a 6 pack but either way i was dressed smart it is freezing here no tight t shirts etc

 

[pete101]

Id say there wasn't much of a connection on her part. And your car not living up to her standard sealed your fate. Get better at reading the signs of how well your dates went. Most fail at this.

Be happy she was honest and said she didn't want to see you again following the date.

Tbh if i walked her to the station instead i could have kino'd and escalated like i have done in the past

Ok her interest wasnt super high but high enough i thought to take it further

But again I'll never know

 

[pete101]

Yeah pretty clear sign of disinterest. Guys miss the telling signs and try to see her just acting "nice" as confirmation she is into them.

Sometimes women might like you as a person but have no interest in you d!cking them down. That's just the way it goes.

Keep building that pipeline and don't let it phase you.

Ok so now i need to think where i went wrong in the date so i dont make the same mistakes again

What are good topics to talk about to get it moving in the direction i want?

 

[SW15]

It's OVER for BeaterCarCels.

It never actually began for those type of men.

What do you drive if you don’t mind me asking?

She definitely sounds materialistic.

It depends on how bad of a car he drives.

I was on a date once and a woman rejected me because my car was over 10 years old at the time of that date. My car visually did not look bad and it was mechanically sound at the time of the date. To her, that was unsatisfactory. Some biatch from a swipe app.

 

[pete101]

It never actually began for those type of men.



It depends on how bad of a car he drives.

I was on a date once and a woman rejected me because my car was over 10 years old at the time of that date. My car visually did not look bad and it was mechanically sound at the time of the date. To her, that was unsatisfactory. Some biatch from a swipe app.

Maybe we dated the same woman lol

 

[SW15]

Maybe we dated the same woman lol

Where was this date? My date rejected me without even seeing my car. The concept of my car was bad enough for her.

That's why you never sit across the table, you sit next to them.

This is true. Sitting next to a woman makes kino escalation easier.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Are you sure the car is the reason for your failure? Could it be that you're scapegoating the car to protect your ego? We've all been on dates that went well only to be ghosted or get the "no romantic connection" line later.

Women are so fickle you simply can't judge her level of interest based on how she acts on the first date. This is particularly true of women you meet on apps. I've had women tell me that they really enjoyed my company and were looking to seeing me again only to completely vanish afterwards. I've had a woman initiate a kiss close only to tell text me the following day that she didn't feel there was a romantic connection (and no, I don't have bad breath). It's just how it is.

 

[zekko]

The convo in the car was ok but i noticed she was asking me questions for information about stuff like i know where the best pizza place is in town and other food and when i said we'll go there some time she didnt acknowledge what i said but still asked where places were that rang alarm bells

Normally you would think gold digger superficial snob, she earns well herself and lives in an expensive part of town i was even thinking when i drove there if the date ends should i give her a lift home or walk her to the train station even though it is freezing -2C right now

Wait a minute, you're saying she's a gold digger because she wanted to go eat some pizza?

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Wait a minute, you're saying she's a gold digger because she wanted to go eat some pizza?

The *best* pizza joint, the best restaurants, best cars, etc OP's girl was a status hound

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Why did you even mention your car before the date? If she asked you you should’ve ejected or taken the queue and taken Uber. You shot yourself in the foot showing you were insecure about your wheels even before meeting her.

 

[DoofusDonutDude]

The *best* pizza joint, the best restaurants, best cars, etc OP's girl was a status hound

What if she was , like born rich and used to a certain level of lifestyle..?

 

[zekko]

The *best* pizza joint, the best restaurants, best cars, etc OP's girl was a status hound

He should have offered to warm her up a Totino's.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

What if she was , like born rich and used to a certain level of lifestyle..?

You tried to bat above your average,annd struck out - unless you have something she wants that she cannot get elsewhere you’re facked - know your audience, play to your strengths, don’t overshoot.

 

[sosuave213]

Ok so now i need to think where i went wrong in the date so i dont make the same mistakes again

What are good topics to talk about to get it moving in the direction i want?

Only you can figure that out. We can't make you want something more than we can make ourselves want what's in front of us. You either do or you don't.

So if you want sex you don't talk about sex. It's all non-verbal.

Rule 1 of fight club is...you don't talk about fight club.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Ive come to the conclusion using any amount of logic when it comes to women and dating will result in utter catastrophe

Be random , be unpredictable , keep her wondering where your heads at and don't admit any kind of emotional attachment to her until you are months down the line

this is THE only way to deal with the modern woman who's mind is over stimulated

 

[pete101]

Are you sure the car is the reason for your failure? Could it be that you're scapegoating the car to protect your ego? We've all been on dates that went well only to be ghosted or get the "no romantic connection" line later.

Women are so fickle you simply can't judge her level of interest based on how she acts on the first date. This is particularly true of women you meet on apps. I've had women tell me that they really enjoyed my company and were looking to seeing me again only to completely vanish afterwards. I've had a woman initiate a kiss close only to tell text me the following day that she didn't feel there was a romantic connection (and no, I don't have bad breath). It's just how it is.

I have been on dates like this before in the past so i like to think i can recognise IOI's

So her interest was moderate rather than super high like had i walked her to the station i could escalate kino

I just felt bad cos it is -3C outside so thought what the hell give her a lift back, now i know not to gentlemanly as it'll just backfire

But if i think through the date the convo i feel i could have done things better moved it into better topics etc

I just looked at her reaction when we got outside and saw my car and that told me enough she was not interested anymore

 

[pete101]

Are you sure the car is the reason for your failure? Could it be that you're scapegoating the car to protect your ego? We've all been on dates that went well only to be ghosted or get the "no romantic connection" line later.

Women are so fickle you simply can't judge her level of interest based on how she acts on the first date. This is particularly true of women you meet on apps. I've had women tell me that they really enjoyed my company and were looking to seeing me again only to completely vanish afterwards. I've had a woman initiate a kiss close only to tell text me the following day that she didn't feel there was a romantic connection (and no, I don't have bad breath). It's just how it is.

Yeah women are so weird

I wonder if mentioning you are seeing other girls from the dating app this weekend would help our cases more with a bit of jealousy thrown in?

 

[pete101]

Wait a minute, you're saying she's a gold digger because she wanted to go eat some pizza?

Never said she was a gold digger per se

She makes good money Def more than me prob I would say £60-80k/yr given where she lives and places she goes to i know her profession they pay well def nothing under £50k at her age of 29 her rent per month is like £2k

Just she was asking me a lot of questions and kept asking tryna fish for info about best places for x y z knowing full well she wont see me again so trying to extract as much info from me as possible

 

[pete101]

The *best* pizza joint, the best restaurants, best cars, etc OP's girl was a status hound

Yeah exactly but again she makes good money herself much more than me lives in richest part of town but pays for it herself she is in finance so earns very well not just some PA

 

[pete101]

Why did you even mention your car before the date? If she asked you you should’ve ejected or taken the queue and taken Uber. You shot yourself in the foot showing you were insecure about your wheels even before meeting her.

I thought naively telling her what it was in advance would help when she saw it i even explained to her why because i cant be having some luxury car as clients wont like the idea they are funding my lavish lifestyle so i need something neutral but you're right it comes across insecure and i need to uber it from now on