"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Date wants to go inside somewhere
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
nicksaiz65
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but inside a caffee?
MoreThanSmooth
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Or just don't wear the hat in the first place?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
RichardTheFrog
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she was into me a lotwe landed in her car i think she was up for sex but said no because of her period (tbh i didnt care).
I think shes reaaaallly into me
and said willl invite me home soon
djthiago1
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"invite me home soon" don't bet your life on it.i nailed it. shes 30 im 23 we were in park. she was bitchin about my age at first (she thinks im 26 and 4 years are too much for her) but i started joking. park was closed just after we went in and we were there alone. we were cuddlin n kissin
we landed in her car i think she was up for sex but said no because of her period (tbh i didnt care).
I think shes reaaaallly into me
im 999999% sure. when i was kissing her i wasnt using tongue i just had fun with lips and she always was putting her tongue out first and get to real kissing and I was just teasing her lol
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
djthiago1
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Women have sex with people they don't even like. Kissing means basically nothing. Ever went to a nightclub or a festival?
nope, never
djthiago1
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If not sarcastic:
Imagine hot kisses with 50 hot girls, 40 numbers, and 0 dates.
MoreThanSmooth
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On a date where it's just been the two of you for 2-4 hours, if she's snogging your face off she's probably interested. Or at least, it's much less likely she's going to sit in your car making out with you if she's isn't interested.
it was her car! lmao.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
djthiago1
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Possible, but in my experience, kissing and sex means nothing. Girls do things they regret all the time, when they're emotional, or vengeful, you name it.
in my case sex and even dates (if emotions are involved) make me have deep thoughts about life. should do or shouldnt. what now n what later
MoreThanSmooth
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Your pic makes you look a bit like a "party guy". Dunno if that's true, I might just be making an assumption. But in that environment, yeah, girls are going to kiss you or f*ck you and it means nothing.
I've been to parties where girls have kissed me and then just shown no interest the next day. That's alcohol.
On average when you're going out specifically dating though, it's not really like that in my experience. The date itself means nothing, a quick kiss at the end of the night means nothing...a girl sitting in a car with you making out *normally* means something.
And chicks normally won't regret kissing or sleeping with you outside a party environment either.
djthiago1
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I do like parties and bars sure, but i don't go for the girls, i'm a very conservative person and i abhor party girls, i don't even like nightclubs because i'm very introverted and i hate crowds. I get most of my girls from my social circle and OLD.
im also intro but when i get complimented or with good people then i feel extroverted
not sure if thats related but it was easy to put me down mentally in the past. i perceive places by what kind of people are there and what they think about me. so if they will hate me i will have trouble forcing myself to go to that place. worked a lot on confidence since that time but I remember how strong it hit me and I assumed back then its because I am intro, while extraverted would probably care less
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.