"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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"Date Them All" Vs. "Choose or Loose"

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So I've noticed two recent articles on SoSuave, one that says I should date every chick that says yes, and the other one says I should hold out for only the the finest woman alive to allow to be my eternal queen.

I can see validity with both points, as well as detriments, but the apparent contradiction is a bit like...well....a contradiction.

What to think?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The Juan and only

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Depends what you want to do. Live your life to get the most enjoyment, whether that be one quality relationship, or a thousand one-night stands.
 

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Not only does it depend upon what you want, but what you have in play.
 

The Juan and only

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DJ1234 said:
Exactly^ you've got to see your options and what is available and then go from there....
then once you have that down you need to ask yourself Quality? Or Quantity?
Its up to you buddeh...
I honestly think you should do things the other way around. Don't limit yourself by what you see on the table in front of you, just be sure of what you want in life and go from there.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Here's something that every guy has to learn.

Use those opportunities for GROWTH and EXPERIENCE.
Go out with the girls who say "Yes" for experience.
You do not HAVE to be attacjed to them. You just have to have fun with them.
When your Ms. Right shows up , you'll be better prepared to handle the situation.
Sexual Confidence is not something you can get just by reading.


Remember, don't be a d1ck. But make sure YOU have fun too.
 

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A lot of things here seem to contradict each other. What I have figured is, every person is different, and every situation is different. Do what you feel is best.
 

I'm Joe Dirt

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I say date everyone who says Yes. By date everyone I don't mean get into an LTR with everyone, I mean just go out and have some lunch together, take a walk around a nice area, or see some movies or plays or something.

Looks are superficial and if you are looking for your dream girl to fall into your lap you will be disappointed on two fronts: first, the girl you may totally love at first sight may not be interested in you or be unavailable and second, if you do go out with her she may turn out to have some flaws you can't deal with or you may just not click.

On the other hand, if you date around you will soon realize what kind of girls you like more and which you don't, and you may even discover things you wouldn't have otherwise with some.

It's always a good idea to sample the field and then if you meet someone really worth your while then you can pursue a relationship.

Plus with experience you will gain confidence, as Interceptor alluded to, which will make it more likely you wil be able to get the woman of your dreams later on if she enters your life.

Consider this: if the woman of your dreams came into your life right now, would you really know what to do? Would you have the confidence to hold up a non awkward conversation and take her to places you know you'd have a good time at and not bore her at (as in take her somewhere other than dinner and a movie)?

Unless you've dated around and had some experience you really might not be ready for that. So take it easy, enjoy the ride, and don't sweat finding "the ONE" right away. She'll come, and you won't even know its her when you first meet her nor will you expect the timing of her arrival. She will just come.
 
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