"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Ok i tend to analyze things way way to much when it comes to dates. This girl i have been talking with at the gym a 9.5 or 10 asked me tonight to head out with her to talk about an upcomming job. I said sure she showed up all dressed up perfumed up and she said she told me she was going to pay for the dinner. The entire dinner we talked she smiled about 1 million times, she told me her interests and asked about mine. We ended up splitting a desert which sort of told me things are going well. Then at the end of the night she gave me a hug and i said so we going to do this again, her face turned red and she smiled and said oh yeah definatly. ALso based on the fact this girl has a great personality and an insane body im somewhat excited about going out again. my question is How long would you guys wait to set up something again with this girl and how would you go about doing it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I have no idea what you did to generate that level of attraction without having any clue what you're doing, but whatever it is, keep doing it.

Maybe you're just studly looking. Who knows. At any rate, if you screw this up, I will personally come over and bitc-h-slap you.

Just keep movin' on with your life and maybe in 3 or 4 days give her a call. Don't go to dinner or anything this time. Go out at maybe 9pm, go for a walk downtown, stop at a coffee shop and build rapport for ~30 minutes but dont let it get boring. Leave. Walk to the nearest park. Take her hand and lead her around . EXPLORE. Talk about anything that would go good with vanilla ice cream if it were a topping. Be scouting for a romantic spot. Stop there. Make out with her. Hold her for a while and let it sink in that you are the most romantic guy on the planet.

Walk around for a bit longer, take her home. Say good night. Dont say anything about "doing this again"

This is Alphathree's flawsless romantic-makeout-session-date-idea
 
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I think i got her because of how bad i am at picking up signals, she used to run in the gym and run right for me and start talking. Then today she called me over and asked me to go to out with her....Everyother guy in the gym drools over her some guy followed her into the parking lot and told her hes amazed he is working out next to someone as beautiful as she is and i guess by me unknowingly being a challenge while she was giving me signals to ask her out, drove her to ask me out ???
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Because the hug was right as we got out of the resteraunt, we were both about to leave when i said so we gonna do this again and then she got that flustered excited look and said Oh yeah definately, at that point i realized the night out wasnt her attempt at being friends but more. lol like i said my biggest problem is confidence and reading girls body language. When i was younger i looked nothing like i do now, so i never had luck with women until my 20's.
 
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Ok here is an update today i did not go to the gym at the same time she usually does. I did not call her at all. Going to go out with my friends tonight and tommorow night and then give her a call Saturday. You think this is the right way to play it, completly stay out of sight for a few days and then call. Its driving me nuts because when shes at the gym so many friggin guys try and pick her up... of course i would never let anyone know it bothers me.
 
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Wow, good work.

wow, keep up the good work, and about not kissing her I think that's good. That is what every other guy is dieing to do and would do if given the chance to go out with her. By not kissing her it makes her wonder why and makes you seem more of a challenge, something girls of her attraction level are looking for. You showed that you're willing to go out and have a good time with other things on your mind than trying to see how far you can get.

By the 2nd day however, definently go for it. At this point, fu.ck trying to read body laungauge, just go on this next outing assuming she's into you.
 
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does anyone have ne advice
 
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E_ze05, you're supossed to be giving it.

P.S. if you really want to see some, look up.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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