"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Date problem

freshjive

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I had this date not that long ago. It started good with just talking (and some kino) and later on we start kissing. Wich was perfect. this was also our 1st date.

But we ended up in her bed and was about to ****, but things went wrong from there, lol. i didnt have a condom (cause i did never really planned to **** her on the 1st date, i would easily wait til 2nd or the 3rd.) wich made me look like a ****ing amateur. cause basically i just wanna build up a good connection before it happens.

Anyways, so we just slowed downand just stop right there and put our clothes back on. it went a little bit embarrasing.

since then, she havent been that positive to meet me and such, i'm sure things would be just fine today if i just would save the **** part for later.

so what shall i do? give her some space for a while. act like nothing happened? i'm not sure she wanna meet me again.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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n00bPimp

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It always turns awkward after things like that happen. Most humans are ashamed after they've given up to their emotions like that, specially when it's with someone they've never been with. From my experience I doubt the relationship will get any better unless you lose all contacts with her for at least 2 weeks.
 

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She feels shame. When a woman has sex with a guy she likes afterwards she has a dependency for him. This overrides any feelings of shame. But if a woman doesnt get that dependency thing and exposes her self sexually it makes her feel very uncomfortable thats why once she accepts sex you have to follow through as soon as possible.

Seriously, my advice here to just call her and say "You know I love you right?"

Trust me. It will take away her shame. Just dont sound like a little worm when you say it.

Be James Bond talking to Moneypenny.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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If you know you don't have a condom, don't escalate it to that point.

Or, do other things with her sexually, including oral if you like, but tell her bluntly that you don't have condom. She'll understand. If she doesn't, it's a good idea not to sleep with her anyway.

It's only akward if you make it!

As for looking like an 'amateur', well only hos get mad at a guy for not planning ahead of time to fvck them. She shouldn't get her panties in a knot that you didn't have a rubber. From what I could tell, she didn't either.


BrotherAP :D
 

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damn what a sad story:(
 

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Originally posted by BrotherAP
If you know you don't have a condom, don't escalate it to that point.

Or, do other things with her sexually, including oral if you like, but tell her bluntly that you don't have condom. She'll understand. If she doesn't, it's a good idea not to sleep with her anyway.

It's only akward if you make it!

As for looking like an 'amateur', well only hos get mad at a guy for not planning ahead of time to fvck them. She shouldn't get her panties in a knot that you didn't have a rubber. From what I could tell, she didn't either.


BrotherAP :D
yeah, lol. iknow i shouldnt escalate like that. damnit!

but i will wait a while before i contact her again, or is this totally ruined?
 

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Originally posted by BrotherAP
If you know you don't have a condom, don't escalate it to that point.

Or, do other things with her sexually, including oral if you like, but tell her bluntly that you don't have condom. She'll understand. If she doesn't, it's a good idea not to sleep with her anyway.

It's only akward if you make it!

As for looking like an 'amateur', well only hos get mad at a guy for not planning ahead of time to fvck them. She shouldn't get her panties in a knot that you didn't have a rubber. From what I could tell, she didn't either.


BrotherAP :D

Have I ever heard more insightful words??? Yeah I have (lol) but what he said is very,very,VERY real. Common sense should tell ya to not start a war if ya sh*t aint together...ALWAYS carry at least one because you'll never know what might happen...
 
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