"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Date problem

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I had this date not that long ago. It started good with just talking (and some kino) and later on we start kissing. Wich was perfect. this was also our 1st date.

But we ended up in her bed and was about to ****, but things went wrong from there, lol. i didnt have a condom (cause i did never really planned to **** her on the 1st date, i would easily wait til 2nd or the 3rd.) wich made me look like a ****ing amateur. cause basically i just wanna build up a good connection before it happens.

Anyways, so we just slowed downand just stop right there and put our clothes back on. it went a little bit embarrasing.

since then, she havent been that positive to meet me and such, i'm sure things would be just fine today if i just would save the **** part for later.

so what shall i do? give her some space for a while. act like nothing happened? i'm not sure she wanna meet me again.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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n00bPimp

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It always turns awkward after things like that happen. Most humans are ashamed after they've given up to their emotions like that, specially when it's with someone they've never been with. From my experience I doubt the relationship will get any better unless you lose all contacts with her for at least 2 weeks.
 

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She feels shame. When a woman has sex with a guy she likes afterwards she has a dependency for him. This overrides any feelings of shame. But if a woman doesnt get that dependency thing and exposes her self sexually it makes her feel very uncomfortable thats why once she accepts sex you have to follow through as soon as possible.

Seriously, my advice here to just call her and say "You know I love you right?"

Trust me. It will take away her shame. Just dont sound like a little worm when you say it.

Be James Bond talking to Moneypenny.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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If you know you don't have a condom, don't escalate it to that point.

Or, do other things with her sexually, including oral if you like, but tell her bluntly that you don't have condom. She'll understand. If she doesn't, it's a good idea not to sleep with her anyway.

It's only akward if you make it!

As for looking like an 'amateur', well only hos get mad at a guy for not planning ahead of time to fvck them. She shouldn't get her panties in a knot that you didn't have a rubber. From what I could tell, she didn't either.


BrotherAP :D
 

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damn what a sad story:(
 

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Originally posted by BrotherAP
If you know you don't have a condom, don't escalate it to that point.

Or, do other things with her sexually, including oral if you like, but tell her bluntly that you don't have condom. She'll understand. If she doesn't, it's a good idea not to sleep with her anyway.

It's only akward if you make it!

As for looking like an 'amateur', well only hos get mad at a guy for not planning ahead of time to fvck them. She shouldn't get her panties in a knot that you didn't have a rubber. From what I could tell, she didn't either.


BrotherAP :D
yeah, lol. iknow i shouldnt escalate like that. damnit!

but i will wait a while before i contact her again, or is this totally ruined?
 

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Originally posted by BrotherAP
If you know you don't have a condom, don't escalate it to that point.

Or, do other things with her sexually, including oral if you like, but tell her bluntly that you don't have condom. She'll understand. If she doesn't, it's a good idea not to sleep with her anyway.

It's only akward if you make it!

As for looking like an 'amateur', well only hos get mad at a guy for not planning ahead of time to fvck them. She shouldn't get her panties in a knot that you didn't have a rubber. From what I could tell, she didn't either.


BrotherAP :D

Have I ever heard more insightful words??? Yeah I have (lol) but what he said is very,very,VERY real. Common sense should tell ya to not start a war if ya sh*t aint together...ALWAYS carry at least one because you'll never know what might happen...
 
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