Date or meetup

[john1234]

To cut a long story short a girl I have worked with on and off in the past. I fancied her, when we talked she comes up close and tries to hide her smile when we gaze at each other, then we usually kept it business like. I decided not to make a move as it were work.

We were sometimes comms on text,although on and off. Well now I don't work there, she has sent me a text message as she also doesnt work there as well and I sugeested we go to celebrate, She says "Great, she is working next Fiday but wants other days and where?"

What do you reakon , its there something worth pursuing here? Maybe she already has the lovely boyfriend..lol

 

[Fireballs]

Yep, go for it. Get her to meet you out for a drink - isolate, escalate and try to bang her.

 

[john1234]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index....t-more-results-now-reduce-your-flakes.234794/

The video in a recent post says not to suggest Friday,Saturday as it put a message across that we have no life or nothing to do? She works Mon-Fri and I am too lazy to do anthing on Friday anyway>

 

[Konada]

An interested girl won't confuse you. To save you the trouble of clumsy logistics, try this:

You: What nights are you free this week?
Her: I'm free on xxx, thurs, saturday
You: Great, I see you at xxx, time, <pick a day that works for you and her>.

Forget the BS about how to ask her out at this stage, your job is to get her out, not establish frame control.

 

[john1234]

PS(Off topic): There was young girl that I met months ago. I texted her for drinks and she was keen to meet up and she said she could meet xx day and time and she is at college at other times, I replied her text with something like , I am working on those days so we could meet xx days.. She then flaked... So how could I see if I can get the ball rolling with her again considering that happened months ago?

 

[RangerMIke]

An interested girl won't confuse you. To save you the trouble of clumsy logistics, try this:

You: What nights are you free this week?
Her: I'm free on xxx, thurs, saturday
You: Great, I see you at xxx, time, <pick a day that works for you and her>.

Forget the BS about how to ask her out at this stage, your job is to get her out, not establish frame control.

Yep... don't worry about what she may or may not want, or how she might perceive you. If you want her.... go after her. If she isn't interested she will let you know then you walk away.

The first step to looking weak in front of a women is to be too fvcking concerned about what she may or may not want.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index....t-more-results-now-reduce-your-flakes.234794/

The video in a recent post says not to suggest Friday,Saturday as it put a message across that we have no life or nothing to do? She works Mon-Fri and I am too lazy to do anthing on Friday anyway>

You already have rapport with her so you can ignore that video.

 

[john1234]

Yep... don't worry about what she may or may not want, or how she might perceive you. If you want her.... go after her. If she isn't interested she will let you know then you walk away.

The first step to looking weak in front of a women is to be too fvcking concerned about what she may or may not want.

Done! It took her a day but she tells me she is free Mon - Thursday....

I wanna suggest a drink? Her area is an hour from mine (and the places I know).

What do you reckon, I suggest a meet up in my area or her area etc?

 

[marmel75]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index....t-more-results-now-reduce-your-flakes.234794/

The video in a recent post says not to suggest Friday,Saturday as it put a message across that we have no life or nothing to do? She works Mon-Fri and I am too lazy to do anthing on Friday anyway>

ignore that BS.

 

[RangerMIke]

Done! It took her a day but she tells me she is free Mon - Thursday....

I wanna suggest a drink? Her area is an hour from mine (and the places I know).

What do you reckon, I suggest a meet up in my area or her area etc?

I would suggest what I want to do. If there is something in her area you would like to try then go ahead and recommend that, otherwise stick with what you know... and like already. Beside if you ask her to come to you and she does... that means she is investing in you and its a good sign.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Done! It took her a day but she tells me she is free Mon - Thursday....

I wanna suggest a drink? Her area is an hour from mine (and the places I know).

What do you reckon, I suggest a meet up in my area or her area etc?

I always go close to her for the first two dates, unless she specifically asks about coming to my area. Here's why:

-It decreases the chances of flaking (you need the date more than you need frame, early on)
-You have to screen her just as she is screening you. Crazy women don't need to know where you live
-If she lives in her own place, the logistics are in place for a lay if she invites you in.

Suggest something you want to do where you want to do it. I would look into activities / events near her that you are interested in doing and plan on checking that out before or after your date. That way if she flakes, the trip still has value.

 

[john1234]

I always go close to her for the first two dates, unless she specifically asks about coming to my area. Here's why:

-It decreases the chances of flaking (you need the date more than you need frame, early on)
-You have to screen her just as she is screening you. Crazy women don't need to know where you live
-If she lives in her own place, the logistics are in place for a lay if she invites you in.

Suggest something you want to do where you want to do it. I would look into activities / events near her that you are interested in doing and plan on checking that out before or after your date. That way if she flakes, the trip still has value.

Well I already text her to meet closer to me, and the message was like "drinks or dinner " very short text, guess she will flake. I could have put it out to pick her up from there but cant stand the thought of a long drive to the location.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Well I already text her to meet closer to me, and the message was like "drinks or dinner " very short text, guess she will flake. I could have put it out to pick her up from there but cant stand the thought of a long drive to the location.

Then you aren't ready for success, my friend.

Think about it from her point of view. She has to do all the leg work for what reason? You haven't even shown her you're worth it yet.

 

[john1234]

Then you aren't ready for success, my friend.

Think about it from her point of view. She has to do all the leg work for what reason? You haven't even shown her you're worth it yet.

Dude you were close! She text and wants to meet but thinks its too far and wants to meet at a mid point lol

PS: I don't get it, if a nice girl asked me to meet up , I wouldn't text back to meet up midpoint ! If you ask me perhaps she is seeing it as a friend meetup ? The dating game is work if you ask me!

 

[EyeBRollin]

Dude you were close! She text and wants to meet but thinks its too far and wants to meet at a mid point lol

Trust me. Only meet halfway if it is a first date and there is a bomb ass spot halfway. After that, you really want to be close to either a hotel (you already had the room booked for a different reason other than her), or one of your places. Logistics is extremely important in getting laid. If she has to go too far once you've got her hot and heavy, you miss your chance.

She is definitely showing high interest. She would not offer to meet half way if she didn't have high interest. Your cheapness will blow this if you don't tighten up. She's opening the door for you, player. Walk through it.

 

[john1234]

Trust me. Only meet halfway if it is a first date and there is a bomb ass spot halfway. After that, you really want to be close to either a hotel (you already had the room booked for a different reason other than her), or one of your places. Logistics is extremely important in getting laid. If she has to go too far once you've got her hot and heavy, you miss your chance.

She is definitely showing high interest. She would not offer to meet half way if she didn't have high interest. Your cheapness will blow this if you don't tighten up. She's opening the door for you, player. Walk through it.

Ok, I rearranged at midpoint....

Ellaborate on my cheapness? My Ex used to mention that to me and I never understood her although I wanted to.

 

[MrWood]

i have done various LDR situations... in all cases it is best to have HER travel to YOU especially the first date.
when you go into a woman's territory for a first meeting, she has all the power and frame.

awkwardness and frustration will ensue when you try to escalate
while you are traveling her pvssy is turning to gold in her mind, there is no fantasy or anticipation for her to keep her emotions flowing...
you will feel odd, not in your space... your attempts at kino will come off unnaturally.. and you will FEEL and APPEAR needy and frustrated

if she comes to you first, you get all of her anticipation, questions, hamster running, do i look ok?, I wonder if we will have sex? etc?

my next first time traveler to my place has even agreed to a taxi from the airport to my place to avoid the awkward 30min drive home, even that we already know we will be fvcking... she knows it will kill the tingles abit...

 

[john1234]

F*** it, will update here if it goes through, and if she aint digging it then she can F off!

 

[john1234]

i have done various LDR situations... in all cases it is best to have HER travel to YOU especially the first date.
when you go into a woman's territory for a first meeting, she has all the power and frame.

awkwardness and frustration will ensue when you try to escalate
while you are traveling her pvssy is turning to gold in her mind, there is no fantasy or anticipation for her to keep her emotions flowing...
you will feel odd, not in your space... your attempts at kino will come off unnaturally.. and you will FEEL and APPEAR needy and frustrated

if she comes to you first, you get all of her anticipation, questions, hamster running, do i look ok?, I wonder if we will have sex? etc?

my next first time traveler to my place has even agreed to a taxi from the airport to my place to avoid the awkward 30min drive home, even that we already know we will be fvcking... she knows it will kill the tingles abit...

Okay is too late now as she won't budge on location....How to you think I should handle it so I don't come across needy and desperate? I don't even know if she has a BF?

 

[EyeBRollin]

Okay is too late now as she won't budge on location....How to you think I should handle it so I don't come across needy and desperate? I don't even know if she has a BF?

Stop worry about being needy and accept the date. You can't sell anything to someone you never get in front of. You should read up a bit on the seasoned vets like Doc Love and Corey Wayne. You're worrying about frame when you haven't even shown value. That's putting the cart before the horse.

She's agreeing to meet up with you halfway for a first date. Don't blow this by being an entitled ****. Meet the chick, show her a good time, then reassess in another week.