GaryUranga
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play twister naked
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Date Ideas
- Thread starter AmgineEX
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
evelsteve
Don Juan
sex is always a good way to burn calories (so I've heard)
girl_in_a_boy_forum
Senior Don Juan
Do and activity. It's more fun than dinner and certainly builds more memories. Go bowling, shoot pool, go to an arcade, go ice skating, go ice blocking, go to a coffeehouse that has open mic/poetry readings/story telling/live music, go to an animal shelter and play with the animals, cook something together (kabobs over an open fire or barbecue is always fun), check your paper for local comedy or improve groups...be creative, there is so much you can do.
i Had a WONDERFUL time at go-carts.. they also had pool there so my date was a simple
1st. Pool
2nd. Eat
3rd. Go carts - P.s at the go carts i would be the driver and we would have two passenger cart at 1st.. LOL and i would let go of the steering wheel.. and just say "AHH WE ARE GONNA CRASH" and just get her scared it was hilarious for me of course, and she loved it every other turn we had i would just let go or close my eyes... after we raced on separate cars and had fun racing i would crash her from the sides... ^_^
1st. Pool
2nd. Eat
3rd. Go carts - P.s at the go carts i would be the driver and we would have two passenger cart at 1st.. LOL and i would let go of the steering wheel.. and just say "AHH WE ARE GONNA CRASH" and just get her scared it was hilarious for me of course, and she loved it every other turn we had i would just let go or close my eyes... after we raced on separate cars and had fun racing i would crash her from the sides... ^_^
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
girl_in_a_boy_forum
Senior Don Juan
Look through your newspaper and you'll likely find a lot of free/inexpensive underground events going on. Some of my favorites are...
Coffee houses: fun and relaxing, a lot of them host poetry/storytelling nights and feature underground bands and music groups (African drums, anyone?)
Outdoor Cinemas: Fun in the summer! If your city doesn't have one of these, borrow a projector and watch a movie on the side of your house. While you're waiting for it to get dark enough outside, enjoy a barbecue, make kabobs, etc.
Ride the city bus and people watch.
Go horseback riding.
Go to the humane society and play with the animals.
Finger paint.
Cook/bake something together. Endless opportunities to kiss frosting off each other's noses.
If you're artsy, go to a free art gallery/showing. Or try one of those paint-your-own-pottery places. Experiment with paper mache.
Go hiking. Bring lunch.
Get together with friends have a Food Fear Factor contest. Create rounds of progressively gross/weird food. (ex. safer foods are typically spam, soda w/ aspirin, or toothpaste mixed with water. For more daring options, find an asian grocery store and cook chicken hearts, pig snout/stomach, or bitter melon juice). A delicious prize is a must.
Go watch a little league game together. If you like kids, marvel over how cute they are. If you don't, make fun of their blunders.
Do yardwork/gardening together. Sounds boring, but it's hands-on, calming, and the silence is golden.
Go to a used book store and compete to find the worst book cover, title, etc. Fantasy and romance novels are typically winners.
If you live in a college town, check out what events are happening at the college. Usually a play, music performance, or film is showing for a low or nonexistant price.
Coffee houses: fun and relaxing, a lot of them host poetry/storytelling nights and feature underground bands and music groups (African drums, anyone?)
Outdoor Cinemas: Fun in the summer! If your city doesn't have one of these, borrow a projector and watch a movie on the side of your house. While you're waiting for it to get dark enough outside, enjoy a barbecue, make kabobs, etc.
Ride the city bus and people watch.
Go horseback riding.
Go to the humane society and play with the animals.
Finger paint.
Cook/bake something together. Endless opportunities to kiss frosting off each other's noses.
If you're artsy, go to a free art gallery/showing. Or try one of those paint-your-own-pottery places. Experiment with paper mache.
Go hiking. Bring lunch.
Get together with friends have a Food Fear Factor contest. Create rounds of progressively gross/weird food. (ex. safer foods are typically spam, soda w/ aspirin, or toothpaste mixed with water. For more daring options, find an asian grocery store and cook chicken hearts, pig snout/stomach, or bitter melon juice). A delicious prize is a must.
Go watch a little league game together. If you like kids, marvel over how cute they are. If you don't, make fun of their blunders.
Do yardwork/gardening together. Sounds boring, but it's hands-on, calming, and the silence is golden.
Go to a used book store and compete to find the worst book cover, title, etc. Fantasy and romance novels are typically winners.
If you live in a college town, check out what events are happening at the college. Usually a play, music performance, or film is showing for a low or nonexistant price.
jeffthechef
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I am enough of an artist to draw freely upon my imagination. Imagination is more important than knowledge. Knowledge is limited. Imagination encircles the world. -Einstein
There are also hundreds of threads asking this same question...i've even asked it already
USE THE SEARCH OR USE YOUR IMAGINATION
There are also hundreds of threads asking this same question...i've even asked it already
USE THE SEARCH OR USE YOUR IMAGINATION
foomee
Senior Don Juan
where are you located? are there any fun things to do near by? maybe bowling or mini golf?
Don't goto a movie theater, maybe invite her over to watch a movie at your place. Just do something that will allow conversation. 12 times out of 10 (yes I know that doesn't work) when I invited a girl over to watch a movie I only see about 10 minutes of it then we start talking/flirting and then some other stuff.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Daddy The Pimp
Master Don Juan
As jeff said , use search function . Endless threads. Maybe they will help you .
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=15032
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=15032
MisterMcGee
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I've been thinking about paintballing. You can be her 'wingman' so to speak, and take hits for her and stuff. I can't see why it'd be a bad date, you're basically protecting her the whole time.
Off topic, but I believe your sig comes from the song "must be emo": http://www.youtube.com/verify_age?next_url=/watch?v=XEJDGLF-e18Daddy The Pimp said:
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Don Shinra
Don Juan
mini golf, go carts...
I'm looking for some too... it's winter here, but there isn't much snow yet.
I'm going to take a girl skating for sure when the ice around my town is ready. At the moment, all I can think of is watch a movie or go to the mall.
I'm going to take a girl skating for sure when the ice around my town is ready
. At the moment, all I can think of is watch a movie or go to the mall.MisterMcGee
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MisterMcGee
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how about the mall date as a first date? j/w how you make it last around an hour or twoish when you're meeting up there for the date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.