"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
What do yall think about going for a stroll in the mall? It seems all the girls I know love to shop...a little too much.
It's just what if they want too much, you're suppose to pay for them right?!
I was thinking for a first date, seeing a movie in the mall, then a stroll in the mall. Or maybe mall first, then movie..
What do yall think?
-Steve
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I love the mall... not only do I practicly live there, like employee's @ all my fav stores no my name, ect. Thers places to stop and eat for any budget [from kahunavill to fridays to irish bars to mc donalds ], plenty of stores [actually, 2 of some stores, 1 @ each end of the mall], and a theatre [like 10 screane, pretty nice]... not to mention, ENDLESS CONVERSATION TOPICS. Just look to ur right left up or down, and I gaurentee you will find 5+ obvius funny/interesting things. ALSO, in malls everywhere they are opening electrice massage therapy stores, take a girl in there for an aqua massage + some relaxation toys or insence! 5-10, depending on the mall, and the if the girl likes shoping.
------------------ Master Don Juan
Anthony (Lorenzo)
AIM: KinoOI
E-mail: [email protected]
ive got one to add, not a real easy one tho, and i wouldnt do it for a first date.
Go see a play, like hamlet or something, if you live near a city, there are most likely non-expensive theaters in your area. And you can pretty much count on it being the first time shes ever been to a play on a date.
Surfing or snowboarding arent bad either
beach dates get boring(to me) unless you have something to do or teach.
Lorenzo, shut up about your mall, you're making me jealous. Our malls in Savannah suck so hard. No movie theatres in them. Decent food courts, but not as good as most, very little (although I've seen smaller), only good stores are abercrombie, spencers, and structure. I gotta move....
Oh yeah, on that show blind date, they always go to a place w/ like 6 hot tub rooms. What would a place like that be called?
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I've never done beach and I snowboarded (is there such a word?) with my friends when I was younger, but I moved. I really wouldn't know how the date would turn out. Could you elaborate more before I add it? thanx.
Well if you can both snowboard fairly well.. just get into the place and have fun, kiss her on the way up to the slope or whenever, chill inside and get some hot chocolate, then ride some more.
if u know how and she doesnt, u teach her lol, other than that same as above.
if u dont know how, u both learn, and same as above.
snowboarding is an awesome date. Its an action date so they sure arnt gonna forget it, you get to show off some of your skills (hurt yourself and you get all kindsa sympathy), chairlifts for talking n **** and at the end of the day you can get your kino in at the lodge. And you can also have alot of fun doing other things like snowball fights. On the last run me nd my girl would take off our snowboards and race down tobagan style. God i cant wait till the mountains open again.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
“Carpe Diem." "The little things... there's nothing bigger, is there?" "When you are sure you know something through and through... be sure, also, that by changing your perspective, you'll know nothing at all"
These are all great ideas guys... but they're no good because my town sucks.
-No minigolf
-No park because the only one in town is over run by gangsters
-No pool hall
-No beach
-No amusement park for 200 miles
-No indoor ice rink
-No planitarium
-No mall
-No ski resort
-No anything
and im sick of inviting girls over for movies, or going to movies in the theater, or watching the stars, and all that stuff.
does anyone have any other ideas? anything at all?
Igor, go parking. Or, if you live in a scenic area, go hiking or bikeriding through trails. Or if you've got a car, drive to a place where there's something to do. You can't be THAT far from a city
yeah forgot to mention outdoor stuff can be difficult because in minnesota the mosquitoes are so thick you can hardly see at times.... but yeah i live in a town of 20,000 people, but there isnt much to do in town as far as teenagers are concerend
i have a car tho, but there arent many cities nearby worth driving to
Then get some RAID and go mosquito spraying. That would be an interesting date!
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I find going to the girls house on a first date is an exceptionally good idea...She is comfortable and u meet the parents. That way u have a chance to make a great impression for future dates u might go on with her.(her parents will back the **** off)But if u lack in the confidence feild this might not be for you...(your out of ur environment and can get nervous easily)...Oh and remember to say Please and ThankYou!
“Carpe Diem." "The little things... there's nothing bigger, is there?" "When you are sure you know something through and through... be sure, also, that by changing your perspective, you'll know nothing at all"
Ok, I decided to add some ideas to the list, some of them I haven't done but still think it'd be pretty cool and some of them i just decided to mention to make the list bigger.
-Going to the gym together: You can get in some kino here by showing her how to do the exercises, there are better places to take ur date though.
-Go-karting: I've never took a date go karting but i've always enjoyed myself when I went so why wouldn't ur date?
-Rockclimbin: (indoor probably) It's just a fun sort of original idea
-Sports: something like playing some bball or something can get lots of kino going and can be pretty fun.
-Arcade: Sure it might make u look kinda nerdy maybe but just stick to like racing games and race against her or what have you, probably would turn out to be pretty expensive tho
-Laser tag or paintball: Fun and pretty original, might be hard to get your date to go because chicks aren't as into that stuff as guys are but hey, it's fun.
-Board game:I had a girl ask me if i wanted to go to her place and play board games with her before, it actually turned out pretty good... I ended up buying a back rub with monopoly money, haha. Board games sound pretty boring but u can make them fun and if u do u probably won't finish them anyways.. Oh ya and twister is always fun!
Anyways just thought I'd shoot some more ideas out there so that the list could get bigger because i think it'd rock if the list got to be like 50 date ideas. Oh and if you guys want to find more date ideas watch shows like blind date and dating shows like that can give you some good date ideas because there is usually a variety there, if there is any cool dates off those shows post it here and share with ur DJ friends!
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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