"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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This girl seems keen on meeting tomorrow and was sexting me last night. Idk where to go, so I told her it was a surprise and that she would have to wait till tomorrow lol. Seemed better than saying idk haha.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Starbucks, Subway, or Cold Stone.
 

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McDonald's. Don't forget to order stuff from Dollar Menu and don't forget to lick your fingers after eating that food.

Serves three purposes:
(1) You are saving some money.
(2) Your are throwing a $#!7test to the girl whether she came to get to know you or for the food you are feeding her.
(3) You have an excuse for taking her to McDonald's as you can shrug your shoulders and say "I don't know this city well. All I know is that McDonald's is there in every city so I brought you here."

 

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Google laser tag + city you are in.
Thank me later.
Remember, action dates always. You want her to associate being with you as fun. So at the end of the boring work week the thought of hanging with @dhoulmaus sounds invigorating..
 

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This girl seems keen on meeting tomorrow and was sexting me last night. Idk where to go, so I told her it was a surprise and that she would have to wait till tomorrow lol. Seemed better than saying idk haha.
-Sop texting. Stop sexting. Don't ask a lady out until you know 1 or 2 places you could go. She will ask.. and you will come off poorly if you don't know.

Download the yelp app and find a dive bar with reasonably priced drinks. If it is near an action / activity (billiards, arcade, bowling), it is better.. .since that gives you a second location if things go well.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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EyeBRollin is right. Go on Google and search "best restaurants (your city here)" and you will see a Yelp link. Go for the $$ ones (versus $ (cheap) $$$ (too much for first date) or $$$$ (for when you propose)). Then you can see their menu and text it to her in advance. Girls love to know details about where they will be going, especially if it's trendy. By reading up on the venue and neighborhood (and finding a place within walking distance in advance) you will have plenty to talk about and do. My favorite thing to do is to go to a new city with a pretty lady and visit some of their hot spots.

I recently met a beauty and got her number, and the moment she mentioned her city I did research and then replied with an inquiry about a certain place. She said it was her favorite spot in town (we're meeting there next week).
 
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You didn't mention a city, but let's say you are in a rural city, girls love going cow tipping, making artisian cheese, quilt making, spooling cotton, under ground barn fight (MMA) and horse back riding, I seen this on a TV show.
Good to see another redneck on this board I thought I was the only one. Cow tipping is the sh!t, no pun intended. Never done it on a date tho lol
 

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submarine races
 

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Finding dates, meeting chicks in places unknown

Cashiers:
. I always have been a small flirt with cashiers, even when I was in a LTR. I actually never noticed I did it, it was always pointed out and it was never done with any kind of overt intent... I just like to make people think or hear something unexpected. While I do live in Finland, my Finnish is quite crap (hint, the word for plastic bag is spoken "pvssy").

Today I was looking for a Coke next to the counter, with my milk and weekend pastries, and only a Vanilla Coke was there... and cashier says something I dont hear, I look, she repeats "Terve/Welcome", I reply in like, and go straight to English, "I dont really need that Coke anyway". I request my "pvssy" and go to pay, I say "well, everyone needs to get a little dirty sometimes (suggesting the Coke was dirty to a clean body)", and she quickly agrees, getting the innuendo and some remark that was positive, but blew through my head cuz of the eye contact she was giving. I leave like a boss with a std local goodbye.
I am 50, she was all of 28... will revisit in 3 days :p

Use a sarcastic or other remark to get an interest/smile, then ask about venues, food a date... cuz you are "new" in town :)
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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