"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Date idea to be field tested Monday - thoughts?

SmoothTalker

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So I have a date Monday evening with a pretty cool and cute girl (HB8 in my books). I've known her for about two months but this will only be our second date as we've both been rather busy.

Trying to think of something fun and unique to do on a Monday evening in a fairly boring town, I actually had what I think is a great idea, so I figured I'd try it, but in the mean while I would like some feedback.

The idea is that I'll tell her we're going to play a game I invented, called 'Most _____ outfit'. Then we go to the nearby mall (pretty decent mall), and the game is to either challenge the other person to put themselves in the most ___ outfit, or alternatively to dress them up in it. Now we're not buying anything, this is just for fun.

For example, I can say I want the most gangsta outfit ever, at which point she can take me to one of those stores and get me to try on sagged baggy jeans, an oversized enyce t shirt and some bling, or something like that. For my turn, I'll tell her to get on he most sexy secretary outfit, for which I guess we'd go to one of those professional woman stores.

Now this might not be for everyone but it sounds like fun, and this girl in particular loves random adventure so I think it would be well received. Other pros include: It's free, it's unusual and thus memorable, you can make it fun, girls love shopping, and it should be fairly easy to ramp up the sexuality a bit (e.g. underwear model, castaway on a tropical island, etc).

The only real downside I see is if she's not into it, it will seem stupid. But as far as I'm concerned if she can't have some silly fun, **** her.

Thoughts?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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its not bad but u cant be serious about nexting her because she doesnt wanna do that
 

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Im all for thinking outside of the box but this just sounds a little iffy.
 

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I suppose nexting just because she doesn't like a weird idea is a bit harsh. Though she already has flaked once, so we'll see how it goes.
 

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It's a fun idea. But you have to present it to her better, because it will sound to her like you've been obsessing/planning this date for ages and you lack fun and spontaneity.

What I would do is invite her out for a coffee or something similar, then just say half way through the date "You know what, this is boring. Let's go do something fun" and take her hand and lead her off. There you can say "How about a game blah blah blah".

This situation means that you get to have a fun action date that is spontaneous (atleast to her) and she ain't gonna reject the idea offhand, because she'll be warmed to you in the coffee part (Make sure to get the kino, sexual frame and innuendo going). Hell, you may even get to dress her up in the changing rooms if you keep it sexual :p.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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SmoothTalker

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Haha give me some credit. We are officially getting together to get smoothies, I was planning to transition pretty smoothly like you mentioned, not just start of with it.

Change room fun would be great though I'm not too sure about that, most of the stores around here are rather uptight about people of the opposite sex going into the same change room. Me and girls have been *****ed out by employees on more than one occasion for that in the past.
 

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Great minds think alike eh? :cool:
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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SmoothTalker

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Sorry to disappoint guys, there won't be a field report today.

She flaked, I believe she's still hung up on her ex.

I'm actually starting a new thread "Second flake, did I handle this right?", so if you want more info/have feedback let me know.

Thanks
 
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