"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Date idea to be field tested Monday - thoughts?

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So I have a date Monday evening with a pretty cool and cute girl (HB8 in my books). I've known her for about two months but this will only be our second date as we've both been rather busy.

Trying to think of something fun and unique to do on a Monday evening in a fairly boring town, I actually had what I think is a great idea, so I figured I'd try it, but in the mean while I would like some feedback.

The idea is that I'll tell her we're going to play a game I invented, called 'Most _____ outfit'. Then we go to the nearby mall (pretty decent mall), and the game is to either challenge the other person to put themselves in the most ___ outfit, or alternatively to dress them up in it. Now we're not buying anything, this is just for fun.

For example, I can say I want the most gangsta outfit ever, at which point she can take me to one of those stores and get me to try on sagged baggy jeans, an oversized enyce t shirt and some bling, or something like that. For my turn, I'll tell her to get on he most sexy secretary outfit, for which I guess we'd go to one of those professional woman stores.

Now this might not be for everyone but it sounds like fun, and this girl in particular loves random adventure so I think it would be well received. Other pros include: It's free, it's unusual and thus memorable, you can make it fun, girls love shopping, and it should be fairly easy to ramp up the sexuality a bit (e.g. underwear model, castaway on a tropical island, etc).

The only real downside I see is if she's not into it, it will seem stupid. But as far as I'm concerned if she can't have some silly fun, **** her.

Thoughts?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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its not bad but u cant be serious about nexting her because she doesnt wanna do that
 

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Im all for thinking outside of the box but this just sounds a little iffy.
 

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I suppose nexting just because she doesn't like a weird idea is a bit harsh. Though she already has flaked once, so we'll see how it goes.
 

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It's a fun idea. But you have to present it to her better, because it will sound to her like you've been obsessing/planning this date for ages and you lack fun and spontaneity.

What I would do is invite her out for a coffee or something similar, then just say half way through the date "You know what, this is boring. Let's go do something fun" and take her hand and lead her off. There you can say "How about a game blah blah blah".

This situation means that you get to have a fun action date that is spontaneous (atleast to her) and she ain't gonna reject the idea offhand, because she'll be warmed to you in the coffee part (Make sure to get the kino, sexual frame and innuendo going). Hell, you may even get to dress her up in the changing rooms if you keep it sexual :p.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Haha give me some credit. We are officially getting together to get smoothies, I was planning to transition pretty smoothly like you mentioned, not just start of with it.

Change room fun would be great though I'm not too sure about that, most of the stores around here are rather uptight about people of the opposite sex going into the same change room. Me and girls have been *****ed out by employees on more than one occasion for that in the past.
 

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Great minds think alike eh? :cool:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Sorry to disappoint guys, there won't be a field report today.

She flaked, I believe she's still hung up on her ex.

I'm actually starting a new thread "Second flake, did I handle this right?", so if you want more info/have feedback let me know.

Thanks
 
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