"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Date flake by text how do you react?

TheGambino

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Whats the best way of dealing with a text flake on a meet: I can't come Im very busy, sory.

I flaked once on a running meet after that she flaked several times and now again so shes definetley out but how do you walk away like a man.

Ignore text and if i meet her indefferince and no attention?

Text back: Ok no problem and done

or just ok
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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This really is a no-brainer. All responses you mentioned are reasonable responses.

The main thing is you forget about her and move on to another.
 

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Definitely text her back and tell her "ok, no problem " and then forget about her and spend your time focusing on other chicks. Life is too short to waste yuor time on a flakey ***** there's millions of other women out there who can replace her.
 

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texted back 'ok' too show that I dont care no replie is an answer too. lol shes funny she changed her whatsapp profile in a sexy photo of herself just after my 'ok' answer.. lmfao next..
 

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"No problem...I actually had a date lined up with another girl at that time anyway"
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You played it right, no big response needed. If you don't respond at all it will seem that you're bothered by it. Now? Get some new ass ASAP.
 

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skinny thats worse advice bud, sayin I got another date arranged anyway is desperation I think she would see true that in a second
 

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skinny thats worse advice bud, sayin I got another date arranged anyway is desperation I think she would see true that in a second
This is that same abused girl you've been posting about for weeks on end???

Geez, brother...did you really have to ask?

Forget about her.
 
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Yup its her bro.

I called her twice and it clicked well she laughed all the time. Even some sexual talk for hours, she singing and stuff I really thought I had her. she was really open answering everything and asking me a lot of questions. But this chick is f*cked up she goes up and down back and forth man.

We had a great convo on the phone.

I asked her out 'soon'.

SHe texts me herself yesterday in the afternoon, lets go grab a drink in 2 hours at that loc?

Replied no sory got work, lets go wednesday? she says maybe, I replie hmm nvm then im busy you know. she replies you dont want me? then: ok see you wednesday at 5 ! I replie you'll be a worse secretary..

she replies: wow why insulting me??

I replie: its a joke lol coz your changing time every second,
cant take a joke?

she replies: well i can take yours..

I ignore all day after that.

1 hour ago she flakes saying shes busy tommorow so no date, i replied on her text 'ok'. she changes her profile picture in a cexy one and i ripped her number. END
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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TheGambino said:
Yup its her bro.

I called her twice and it clicked well she laughed all the time. Even some sexual talk for hours, she singing and stuff I really thought I had her. she was really open answering everything and asking me a lot of questions. But this chick is f*cked up she goes up and down back and forth man.

We had a great convo on the phone.

I asked her out 'soon'.

SHe texts me herself yesterday in the afternoon, lets go grab a drink in 2 hours at that loc?

Replied no sory got work, lets go wednesday? she says maybe, I replie hmm nvm then im busy you know. she replies you dont want me? then: ok see you wednesday at 5 ! I replie your a worse secretary..

she replies: wow why insulting me??

I replie: its a joke lol coz your changing time every second,
cant take a joke?

she replies: well i can take yours..

I ignore all day after that.

1 hour ago she flakes saying shes busy tommorow so no date. END
Ok. What was or wasn't said is immaterial. Fluff.

When it comes to text/email I lay off the ****y/funny because it doesn't translate too well - and this is coming from a guy who's done stand up comedy!

The only thing that needs to be done is determining her interest level. And this is done by arranging a date.

If she flakes (without a counter) - she's not interested.

Period.

End of.

Next!

Capisce?
 

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after personal experience and reading thread after thread on here, Im now somewhat convinced that texting is the most atrocious way of trying to communicate with women...Im not saying you did anything wrong, the girls probably kinda crazy or whatever, but its amazing how the littlest things can get taken out of context by either party and totally **** things up. Just reading your exchange in your last post I can almost feel both of you trying to "figure out" the other person..
 

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I delete her number and drop her ass. Your princess is in another castle.

Case closed.
 

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Yes man i just dont get it she asks me lets go for a drink i reSchedule with what said above and she flakes..

But 100% next im done
 

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Yes man i just dont get it she asks me lets go for a drink i reSchedule with what said above and she flakes..

But 100% next im done
YOu're not supposed to 'get it'. that is the whole point.

A woman's primary weapon in the art of love is the ability to confuse you.

When you are confused you are at her mercy.

A man's primary weapon in the art of love is indifference.

It is the only antidote.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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A girl that likes you wont confuse you, yes i get it bro great words username ty buddy
 

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Why don't you know what to do?......I've already told you what to do.....you already read my thread and commented on it.....you should read it again.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=208637


Being indifferent doesn't mean sh!t if the chick has no interest in you.....because she doesn't give a sh!t about you!!

Uninterested chicks will just play games with you and string you along.....they are not interested in hanging out/fvcking you........as you have found out

You keep wasting your time on them....you feed them more attention.....they laugh at you behind your back...they string you along for a date...you show your desperation....then they make another excuse...then they flake....then you end up with nothing!!

Then those two guys who wrote in my thread want to keep pursuing them LOL

Like I said, it' a waste of time.....it took you all that time to learn she wasn't interested, when you could've known that when she flaked by text.

Interested chicks don't flake.....they want to see you

Uninterested chicks flake/make excuses...they don't want to see you

When a chick flakes....put her at the bottom of your list.....don't ask her out again until she shows some real interest in you....interested chicks will always want to see you..in fact you won't have to ask them out....they will be asking you out!!

This is another great example of what I've been talking about!!
 

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Just say "ok" and delete her shıt. This is what happens when you try and try and try after a girl is just too shaky with you. Hope just doesn't work in the dating world.
 

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buzzin_frog said:
Being indifferent doesn't mean sh!t if the chick has no interest in you.....because she doesn't give a sh!t about you!!
quite the contrary.

being indifferent means a lot. for a start it means not caring when a girl is not interested, enabling one to move on to another girl with ease instead of obsessing about her and developing oneitis like OP clearly has.

indifference isn't something you pull out of a hat just when you want to manipulate someone. It is a state of mind. A way of life.

A form of dissociation. But in a healthy, powerful, jedi-like way.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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