"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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MisterMike

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I went on a date with an attractive woman last night, it didn't work out, she seemed extremely arrogant and standoffish. She said she wants a guy to chase, give her gifts, and make her number 1 because she's special. She was pretty as a picture but a massive B. How should I have played this?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Billtx49

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She told you what she is on the date. Listen. Nothing you could have done will change her personality or attitude. She's in the market for a puppy dog. Better ones out there…
 
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old_skoolr

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I went on a date with an attractive woman last night, it didn't work out, she seemed extremely arrogant and standoffish. She said she wants a guy to chase, give her gifts, and make her number 1 because she's special. She was pretty as a picture but a massive B. How should I have played this?
How ironic, I also want a girl who who chases me, gives me gifts and make her my number 1 priority because I'm special. We have so much in common!!!!
 

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She doesn't know what she wants. Isn't that what the typical guy does? Buy her gifts, chase her and make her number one priority?

You should have been an ass. You should have said "girl stfu, no one has time to chase your ass."
While sipping your drink nonchalantly.
That would have spiked her attraction.
And even if it didn't so what.

Gotta have big gigantic balls and take risks like that. It's 4 billion women you literally have nothing to lose.

But I bet she's waiting on a guy to pull her card like that instead of pandering like a p*ssy or letting her "little comments" get them off track like you did.
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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MisterMike

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It didn't really get me off track, it was more offputting than anything. Honestly, she seemed to take everything I said into something offensive, so I just got annoyed and called it a night.
 

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Lack of attraction/low interest likely triggered her poor attitude. Be happy she showed her cards early! Low self-esteem/insecure/emotional control issues are likely.
 

TheMonkeyKing

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Princess mentality. Wants to be given everything for giving nothing back. Goodbye.
 

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You should have been an ass. You should have said "girl stfu, no one has time to chase your ass."
While sipping your drink nonchalantly.
That would have spiked her attraction.
And even if it didn't so what.
True... the chick has already disqualified herself. So why would you care if you burn that bridge. Not how I would have handled it, I would just never contact her again. But if you wanted to play around with her and try make something happen, this is the way to go.
 

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Women who want you to chase them, also want to waste your time!

NnnnnnnnnNext!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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