"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Juanto

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Hi guys, need some quick feedback on this particular situation.

Im currently in Norway until tomorrow and i had 2 dates with a kenyan girl here. First date went quite well, bit of kino from my side which she didnt reject, she also suggested another date for the next day and texted me the same night saying she had a good time.

Yesterday had 2nd date, where I ramped up a bit the kino and the conversation. Made my intentions quite clear and went for the kiss but she got defensive and turned away, saying its too soon.I then said "OK no problem, its my job to try, its your job to resist, I understand.". Also told her to hit me up today if she wants to see me again. However, im leaving tomorrow morning so we either meet today or there is no telling if or when we will see each other again.

She gets off her job in 2 hours but should I reach out to her or just wait and see if she texts me?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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QuadDeuces

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Yea reach out, best case you get laid tonight, worst case some broad 999999 miles away you will never see again thinks youre a needy beta.
 

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Got shot down, but hey, at least I tried
 

Thorninmyside

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It's a strange world when Kenyan girls get to be picky. I guess with her being in Norway there are plenty of local options.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Juanto

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Only had 3 days to make something happen so had to push quite a bit, didnt work in the end....

In your view, is it still worthwhile to tease her with some text from time to time, on the off chance she might want to visit my country?
 

dustmuffin

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Only had 3 days to make something happen so had to push quite a bit, didnt work in the end....

In your view, is it still worthwhile to tease her with some text from time to time, on the off chance she might want to visit my country?
Um no, why waste time on her and give her free validation? You will never see her again. Spend time on girls you can actually have.
 

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I actually find it admirable that a maiden resists the come-on from a lecher.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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ChristopherColumbus

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Well, I'm on holiday in a strange city for a few days. I've collected a few phone numbers, and can't for the life of me put the face to the name. I won't even bother trying to make contact, it was all about just having some fun, meeting people, and practicing my DJ skills.
 

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Norwegian chicks r hot. Y did not eat local?
I was quite disapointed with the local girls, most were quite chubby although with pretty faces. Of course you get the odd stunner but generally I was expecting far higher quality, like in Sweden or Denmark.
 

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Wah. They used to all be beautiful. Great feminism s trashed another country. :oops:
 
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