"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dangers of Tan Beds

Sayajin_Prince

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i was thinking of doing some sessions of tanning in a gym but some say it ****s up with the melanine ( skin pigmentation ) and causes cancer.


does anyone here went to do or still does some of these tanning sessions ?

how many days a week you do it? and how many minutes?

do u use any products before or after the tanning ?


i'm really concerned about this cancer thing but autumn is comming ( no more beach or vacations ) and i want to keep a tan since im joining the gym and it sure does help for you to notice improvements in the definition of your body.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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tristan22

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I tan about 3 to 4 times per week. Yes, i am also very afraid of skin cancer, but i take the chance.

If you have red hair and fair skin, i would stay clear of tanning beds!
 

DJDanny

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I'm by no means a professional on the issue but i was under the impression that tanning on a tanning bed was safer then tanning outside because you were only exposed to the non-dangerous rays not the whole spectrum.
 

floorman81

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I'm 24, I tanned 3 times a week from 18-22. When i was 22 I got diagnosed with melanoma, the kind of skin cancer that spreads and can kill you.

If you can avoid tanning do it. I understand it boosts your confidence so I am not knocking anyone who does it. Plus, I never thought I'd be one of the small percentages that get it.


I was just lucky they caught it early before it spread to my lymph nodes.
 

tristan22

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^^^^^^^^^^^^

What were your symptoms and what did the mole look like?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Wake Forest has published research that essentially proves that tanning beds are chemically addictive. The UV light releases endorphins.
 

tristan22

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^^^^^

Maybe to some people, however it's not essential for me to go. I go if i feel like it!
 
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