"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dangerous way of thinking

everywomanshero

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I'm seeing a dangerous style of thinking on this forum. Basically, there is an element of person who are so far removed from success with women that they tend to think anyone who reports success must be lying or exagerating.

This is a very handy model of thinking for those who do not wish to face the simple fact that they could be doing something about their failures with women. The fact is there are guys on thisand other forums that ARE having success with women. You can either join them or continue saying nothing would work and keep getting the same results.

I'll give you just one example: Ross Jefferies has taken a bad beating. I have no idea if most of my his material would work or not, but I have "borrowed" material of his dating back to 1994 and made it work. Now, had I just listened to the conventional advice and ignored everything he had to say, I would've missed out on some good stuff.

If you listen to some of these guys, nothing would work except sitting around waiting for a busload of Playmates to accidently mistake your shabby aparment for Heffners masion.

The truth of the matter is it takes hours per day of reading, testing, analysing results, getting feedback from successful men, and retesting to get this stuff right. It's more like a permanent part of your life than a quick fix.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Bottom line is most of the guys here are KBJs. Theory doesn't work in real life...there are so many variables.
 

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The Field

I agree. It's pointless to read about techniques and never experiment with them. If you don't rehearse them, you won't be able to remember much less execute them when you've tried to "cram" the night before going out.

I now have an increasing circle of wingmen in my local area. I had zero when I first started this thing. In addition, I've learned how to go out solo. There is never an excuse. At least four women a day at the absolute minimum should be approached. That isn't hard to do at all. You have to go to work, shop, get gas, and eat don't you?
 

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Originally posted by everywomanshero
...there is an element of person who are so far removed from success with women that they tend to think anyone who reports success must be lying or exagerating.
I've noticed this in life as well (and on this forum).

The people who lie...
-accuse everyone else of lying.

The people who cheat...
-accuse their partner of cheating.

The people who have no success with women...
-accuse everyone else of having no succes with women.


Psychology 101.

Projection: is when someone is threatened by or afraid of their own impulses so they attribute these impulses to someone else.

source:
http://www.alleydog.com/glossary/definition.cfm?term=Projection
 

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I'm just guessing, but probably 90% of the people here are KBJ! And i've met plenty of them...lol :D
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by tristan22
I'm just guessing, but probably 90% of the people here are KBJ! And i've met plenty of them...lol :D
And you won't tell us who...

Honestly though I don't care if a guy isn't good, but as long as he's out in the field trying and improving.
 

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I don't care either, i was shocked at the lack of game going on!
 
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