"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Ok guys the weakest part of my game in a club is dancing. Whats a fashionable modern dance to learn that you can apply to dance music or older songs? im not even familiar with all the names so a brief description would be useful also. :)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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it's nothing you learn, it's something you feel. after going a while, you will be so confident in it. I use to be self-conscious about dancing at the club but after doing it a lot then i got use to it. Just watch some Justin Timberlake concert videos, and try to mimic his moves. They aren't that hard if you practice ;)
 

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thats like telling someone to learn a martial art by copying a bruce lee movie. I need to be taught in a lesson.
 

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sebastionay said:
Whats a fashionable modern dance to learn that you can apply to dance music or older songs?
Swing & Blues (particularly Blues, but you don't learn one without the other). Those two are dances based on improvisation, grooving your entire body to the music and good understanding of rhythm & musicality. Once you get good at them, you can pick up everything else easily. They're my foundation (plus tap dancing). I do other dance styles as well and I get them very quickly. I can go to any club, and it doesn't matter what music they're playing, I can adapt and look like I've been learning the dance style for that song for a long time.

Gamble said:
it's nothing you learn, it's something you feel. after going a while, you will be so confident in it. I use to be self-conscious about dancing at the club but after doing it a lot then i got use to it. Just watch some Justin Timberlake concert videos, and try to mimic his moves. They aren't that hard if you practice
This is what other guys do (other than being wallflowers) and I'm so glad they do that, because it means that I don't need to do much to own the dance floor. :D
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Search for Corey Vidal on youtube. he has a ton of dance instruction videos on there.
 

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Confidence is king with club dancing. You don't have to learn to dance properly. Just have a look around occaisionally at what other people are doing and just start moving and don't hesitate. You will only look weak if you look shy, embarrased etc.

I can't dance for toffee but I just get a couple of drinks in me and go for it!

One of my friends also can't dance but he really goes for it on the dance floor, finds his own space and busts the moves out. We used to laugh at him but women go up and approach him. As long as you have the confidence to pull it off you are fine.

I go for a bit more of a restrained style but the one thing I do like to do occaisionally is (depending on the music) throw a few gimmick moves in there e.g. the chainsaw, John Travolta moves from Pulp Fiction etc. etc.
 

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Jitterbug said:
Swing & Blues (particularly Blues, but you don't learn one without the other). Those two are dances based on improvisation, grooving your entire body to the music and good understanding of rhythm & musicality. Once you get good at them, you can pick up everything else easily. They're my foundation (plus tap dancing). I do other dance styles as well and I get them very quickly. I can go to any club, and it doesn't matter what music they're playing, I can adapt and look like I've been learning the dance style for that song for a long time.



This is what other guys do (other than being wallflowers) and I'm so glad they do that, because it means that I don't need to do much to own the dance floor. :D
Thanks for the constructive comment :)
 

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I no longer dance.

I'm older than most of you, been there, done that. Don't wanna do it anymore.

It's not an absolute essential that you do it, and most of the clubs are so crowded, you're pretty much just rocking back and forth anyway.

I say if you enjoy it, and it's something you want to learn, then go for it. But I wouldn't do it just to try to impress women. The efforts vs. the results is not a great pay out, in my experience.

In most cases, just be good enough so that you don't get laughed at-and thus, don't have to turn down a dance from an HB because you are afraid. But beyond that, it's pretty unusual that a chick is going to be into you because you're a great dancer.
 

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Blackmm said:
Search for Corey Vidal on youtube. he has a ton of dance instruction videos on there.
Corey puts exact moves from some singers (justin timberlake , nelly furtado :crazy: ) from their music video . And doing the exact same moves its a bit too HARD TRYING and it will be creepy a bit . Learn some nice smooth moves and thats it . Dancing MY LOVE like Justin dances it is so creepy.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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krazyboy99 said:
what kind of music do they play at clubs over there in the UK? here in america its mostly hip hop which you don't realy need to "learn" to dance to
Here in my country , it plays mostly Techno , House , Trance and sometimes hip hop .:mad:
And in most of Europe country's this is the music that is mostly played on clubs .

Hip hop is great anyway. I learned how to Crip Walk on youtube lol .
 

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Techno's easy, just get some light sticks and twirl them and nod your head in the same direction for a few hours.
 

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sebastionay said:
Ok guys the weakest part of my game in a club is dancing. Whats a fashionable modern dance to learn that you can apply to dance music or older songs? im not even familiar with all the names so a brief description would be useful also. :)
I have the same problem and that's the main reason I avoid clubs. I tried learning off youtube videos, and I do have some musical skill, but when it comes to dancing I just suck. I took a few salsa lessons but I just didn't like it so I gave up.

I think salsa might be what you're looking for but I've heard something about east coast swing (sp?) that seems to be pretty popular.
 

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UK has a variety. in a mainstream club you will have Dance.R+B,cheese(bon jovi etc) in seperate rooms, however i prefer funky house when im in liverpool (otherwise prefer dance).
And i want to LEARN a relavant style of dance rather than twirl a glowstick!
 

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*takes a wand*
*casts it*

You can dance now. What, did you think dancing well is an accident?

Your mission now is to scour Youtube for dancing videos. Find something you like, that you can do, and start practicing.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

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