Ok guys the weakest part of my game in a club is dancing. Whats a fashionable modern dance to learn that you can apply to dance music or older songs? im not even familiar with all the names so a brief description would be useful also. 
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
it's nothing you learn, it's something you feel. after going a while, you will be so confident in it. I use to be self-conscious about dancing at the club but after doing it a lot then i got use to it. Just watch some Justin Timberlake concert videos, and try to mimic his moves. They aren't that hard if you practice
Swing & Blues (particularly Blues, but you don't learn one without the other). Those two are dances based on improvisation, grooving your entire body to the music and good understanding of rhythm & musicality. Once you get good at them, you can pick up everything else easily. They're my foundation (plus tap dancing). I do other dance styles as well and I get them very quickly. I can go to any club, and it doesn't matter what music they're playing, I can adapt and look like I've been learning the dance style for that song for a long time.sebastionay said:
This is what other guys do (other than being wallflowers) and I'm so glad they do that, because it means that I don't need to do much to own the dance floor.Gamble said:
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Maybe on Youtube you can learn something .
I learned Crip Walk there lol
I learned Crip Walk there lol
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Confidence is king with club dancing. You don't have to learn to dance properly. Just have a look around occaisionally at what other people are doing and just start moving and don't hesitate. You will only look weak if you look shy, embarrased etc.
I can't dance for toffee but I just get a couple of drinks in me and go for it!
One of my friends also can't dance but he really goes for it on the dance floor, finds his own space and busts the moves out. We used to laugh at him but women go up and approach him. As long as you have the confidence to pull it off you are fine.
I go for a bit more of a restrained style but the one thing I do like to do occaisionally is (depending on the music) throw a few gimmick moves in there e.g. the chainsaw, John Travolta moves from Pulp Fiction etc. etc.
I can't dance for toffee but I just get a couple of drinks in me and go for it!
One of my friends also can't dance but he really goes for it on the dance floor, finds his own space and busts the moves out. We used to laugh at him but women go up and approach him. As long as you have the confidence to pull it off you are fine.
I go for a bit more of a restrained style but the one thing I do like to do occaisionally is (depending on the music) throw a few gimmick moves in there e.g. the chainsaw, John Travolta moves from Pulp Fiction etc. etc.
Thanks for the constructive commentJitterbug said:Swing & Blues (particularly Blues, but you don't learn one without the other). Those two are dances based on improvisation, grooving your entire body to the music and good understanding of rhythm & musicality. Once you get good at them, you can pick up everything else easily. They're my foundation (plus tap dancing). I do other dance styles as well and I get them very quickly. I can go to any club, and it doesn't matter what music they're playing, I can adapt and look like I've been learning the dance style for that song for a long time.
This is what other guys do (other than being wallflowers) and I'm so glad they do that, because it means that I don't need to do much to own the dance floor.
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I no longer dance.
I'm older than most of you, been there, done that. Don't wanna do it anymore.
It's not an absolute essential that you do it, and most of the clubs are so crowded, you're pretty much just rocking back and forth anyway.
I say if you enjoy it, and it's something you want to learn, then go for it. But I wouldn't do it just to try to impress women. The efforts vs. the results is not a great pay out, in my experience.
In most cases, just be good enough so that you don't get laughed at-and thus, don't have to turn down a dance from an HB because you are afraid. But beyond that, it's pretty unusual that a chick is going to be into you because you're a great dancer.
I'm older than most of you, been there, done that. Don't wanna do it anymore.
It's not an absolute essential that you do it, and most of the clubs are so crowded, you're pretty much just rocking back and forth anyway.
I say if you enjoy it, and it's something you want to learn, then go for it. But I wouldn't do it just to try to impress women. The efforts vs. the results is not a great pay out, in my experience.
In most cases, just be good enough so that you don't get laughed at-and thus, don't have to turn down a dance from an HB because you are afraid. But beyond that, it's pretty unusual that a chick is going to be into you because you're a great dancer.
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Corey puts exact moves from some singers (justin timberlake , nelly furtado :crazy: ) from their music video . And doing the exact same moves its a bit too HARD TRYING and it will be creepy a bit . Learn some nice smooth moves and thats it . Dancing MY LOVE like Justin dances it is so creepy.Blackmm said:
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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Here in my country , it plays mostly Techno , House , Trance and sometimes hip hop .krazyboy99 said:
And in most of Europe country's this is the music that is mostly played on clubs .
Hip hop is great anyway. I learned how to Crip Walk on youtube lol .
I have the same problem and that's the main reason I avoid clubs. I tried learning off youtube videos, and I do have some musical skill, but when it comes to dancing I just suck. I took a few salsa lessons but I just didn't like it so I gave up.sebastionay said:Ok guys the weakest part of my game in a club is dancing. Whats a fashionable modern dance to learn that you can apply to dance music or older songs? im not even familiar with all the names so a brief description would be useful also.
I think salsa might be what you're looking for but I've heard something about east coast swing (sp?) that seems to be pretty popular.
UK has a variety. in a mainstream club you will have Dance.R+B,cheese(bon jovi etc) in seperate rooms, however i prefer funky house when im in liverpool (otherwise prefer dance).
And i want to LEARN a relavant style of dance rather than twirl a glowstick!
And i want to LEARN a relavant style of dance rather than twirl a glowstick!
*takes a wand*
*casts it*
You can dance now. What, did you think dancing well is an accident?
Your mission now is to scour Youtube for dancing videos. Find something you like, that you can do, and start practicing.
*casts it*
You can dance now. What, did you think dancing well is an accident?
Your mission now is to scour Youtube for dancing videos. Find something you like, that you can do, and start practicing.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.