"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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dancing with boner???

gijoe

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i was at this dance slow dancing w/ some chick i just met and was talking to her and suddenly i got the biggest boner. are you suppose to get a boner while slowdancing? how do you react if she reacts?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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spax

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omg you probably have never touched a girl in your life before.
 

decades

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I don't see this as a problem unless you are on Dancing with the Stars HD.
 

spax

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But seriously.....slow dancing? WTF? Masturbate some more if you get horny off that.
 

gijoe

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normally i dont, i have touched a girl before, and yes i have danced dozens of times.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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jcap

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sure, its normal,
embrace it, don't worry , girls like it when you get boners

just hope its dark there so everybody *else* don't see it,
but the girl you are dancing with

whisper in her ear "lol , stop turning me on so much!"

always speak of what she is thinking or what you are thinking, it'll make things more comfortable.
 

SmellyOrc

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spax said:
But seriously.....slow dancing? WTF? Masturbate some more if you get horny off that.
I get horny when I watch people kiss... :eek:
 

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i was at this dance slow dancing w/ some chick i just met and was talking to her and suddenly i got the biggest boner. are you suppose to get a boner while slowdancing? how do you react if she reacts?
First couple of times I've been in that situation, it was AWKWARD as ****.

Once you been around the block a few times, its cool though. As long as you're comfortable with it, SHE is comfortable with it. That's what grinding is for bro
 

SinJester

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spax said:
omg you probably have never touched a girl in your life before.
omg you are probably gay.

Anyway it will probably turn her on, I used to think along the same lines but now I just chill with it, I haven't had a girl slap me yet :p
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Well i was so embarrassed i was like getting hell into dancing with this chick and them bam.. i was just so devastated at the time i just walked off and tried to ignore the situation and then come back as if nothing happened. were really good mates now however
 

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It's only bad if she's fat. Or a teacher. Especially a male one. You never know, right? This is the 21st century after all.
 
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