"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Dancing in Bars/Clubs

Sofomore

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So I was out last night, having a great time dancing with some girls (pivots) and going nuts over the music. I told myself to be the life of the party and have fun, and it was great. Unfortunately, I was hesitant to dance with new girls. There were a TON of creepy dudes just watching, and I was one of few guys that was just having an awesome time dancing alone/near my pivots.

Now I was hoping someone could give me advice on "approaching" girls in this situation. Girls are almost always in pairs, usually one HB and one UG.

How do you get to dancing with the HB?

Say the girl sees that you're fun and like to dance. How do you open when you can't really hear each other? Just a hand on her hip and then gauge her reaction?

I feel like I would be thrown into the "creepy" category if I spot a hottie who is dancing/having as much fun as me, and is dancing near me, and I just start dancing with her.
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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J Roc

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Sofomore said:
I feel like I would be thrown into the "creepy" category if I spot a hottie who is dancing/having as much fun as me, and is dancing near me, and I just start dancing with her.

and you dont feel creepy dancing alone or around a group of other men? :whistle:
 

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J Roc said:
and you dont feel creepy dancing alone or around a group of other men? :whistle:
Not at all. When I'm dancing I am just getting down to the music, not caring if I'm alone. Where did you get the "around a group of other men" from? I am talking about situations where girls are dancing in groups next to me.

What I am asking is how do you "approach" these girls without being thrown into the "just another guy trying to dance with me" category.

Thanks for the....serious....response. :rolleyes:
 

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J Roc said:
and you dont feel creepy dancing alone or around a group of other men? :whistle:
Thumbs down, J Roc.


OP: There is absolutely nothing wrong with dancing by yourself or near women. In fact, it is the dudes who are just having fun on the dance floor with or without women, who are the ones attracting women. Let me tell you a brief story. I used to be terrified of clubs and by dancing on my own & working out I gained confident & danced on my own at clubs. I am very selective about who who I have sex with. However, I have kissed more women than I can count :whistle:. Take a look at my story (scroll down until you find Robyn923b). If I made it, you can do it too.

Being the life of the party pumps you up and gets your ready for success. I suggests enjoying yourself like you are already doing and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. When you see an attractive girl, step up to her & tell her you two are having a competition (if she's dancing). Start with a cool move & then tell her to beat it. Once she does, reply with a silly move; they will love you for being fun. As for dancing with and Hb who is with a UG: dance with both. In fact, make the UG your target at the beginning while slightly engaging the HB. The UG is the one most likely to c0ckblock you, so you must defuse her first. Once you are in with her, shift your attention gradually to the HB. Your goal is to get both to dance comfortably with you. However, you must move pretty fast so that you don't have some other dude trying to steal your HB, in which case, you should AMOG the guy & pull her because you're an alpha. If she ISN'T dancing, just go up to her confidently, grab her hand taking the lead and say "Hey, I'm Sofomore. Come here and dance with me(with a smirk)." You can pull high 9's doing this.

Here are some tips by Tyler Durden from RSD that will really help you: Tips part 1 Tips part 2 PM me if you have questions/comments. Keep up the good work, man :cool:.

PS: +1 Rep. for starting the Bootcamp. I'm in.

-Rob
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Go up behind them and put a hand on their hip as to pull them. They will look at you and if she likes what she sees she will dance with you.
 
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