"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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dancing, but not clubs

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Hi guys, after searching this forum for HOURS, i still came up with just about nothing on the subject of dancing. i used the search feature with "dancing" and "how to dance" but it came up empty.

anyway, what i was wonering is, basically how do you dance?? i'm totally, 100% clueless on this matter. i dont mean dancing, like clubs and stuff, i mean just high school SCHOOL dances, or friends' parties, sweet 16s, etc.

i tried watching people, but i couldnt really get a sense of what was goin on. obviously there's stuff like the grind, which i dont know how to do either...

i'm hoping that 1. this will enlighten me, and 2. this will englighten others just like me with the same issues

thanks a lot and hoping for a quick reply b/c of upcomming parties...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Go to the video store and rent Switch and watch when Will Smith teaches the fat guy the basics of dancing or look it up on google. If your still clueless just ask a HB to teach you to dance.
 

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yeah i saw Hitch already... and basically all he says is just subtle movements, to the beat, dont do anything crazy, side to side with the snap

but that sure as hell isnt gonna roll when you get to a party, where everyone is dancing like crazy and nice moves and whatnot

i just need a beginners guide for an uncomming party, where i KNOW there's gonna be a lot of dancing...
 
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Ok fine if you want dance moves watch any rap video, if you want BREAK DANCE moves down load some from net or use limewire. If you want to know how to grind just look it up on google theres a million sites that have pictures and clips that'll guide you through it. Or once you go to the party you can watch for few min see what other guys are doing then start off by doing the easy stuff then work towards the harder ones.
 

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that sounds good... and yeah im looking for regular dancing, not break dancing, like just moving, grinding, etc

got any sites?

and how about rap video names?

thanks a lot
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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my strategy was: befriend a black woman, have her teach you.

mine didn't have a lot of time to teach me so i'm going to have to get another study course sometime soon. :)
 

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anyone have any good rap videos that have casual dance and/or club scenes where i can actually SEE how people dance in real life?

and my casual i dont mean break dancing or friggen ballroom dancing... just like, moving with the beat...

just need names of vids

THANKS
 

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50cent - in da club
50cent - outta control
Also Sean Paul videos.

If you want to see a pro look at Usher but I don't recommend trying his tricks if you are inexperienced :p

I don't know how you people dance at "high school dances" where I am it is the same as in clubs and friends parties.

Dancing is the easiest thing in the world if you get the hang of it. Just relax and have a good time when you do it.

Dance on music at home until you feel like getting it.

If your are nervous about it start dancing with a group of friends, until you feel better about it.

Grab a girls hand, pull her close to you and move your @ss baby, bend your knees slightly to the beat and move your hands a little. Also motion your head. Basically all parts of your body should be moving.

The most important thing is feeling like you are the star on the dance floor and not giving a **** about the people around you or about what they could think of you dancing.

Remember I said "feel like a star" don't try to be the star or impress a girl if you are a n00b. You can do that after you have some experience.

I hope that helps.
 

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thanks guys
i took a look at in da club -- although the dance scenes are pretty choppy and short, i got somewhat of a good sense how to move with the beat

i also learned from a friend how to grind

i was wondering if you had any NAMES for these justin timberlake vids? thanks.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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just let go and dance. Grab the girl by the waist and have her lead, follow her hips with your own like you're givin it to her from behind. Try to keep from gettin a stiff one cause most girls don't like it, but if its a girl you've got mutual interest in then let loose!

Proggressively get closer and closer when you're face to face. If she knows what shes doin she'll hop on your leg and you can proceed to the stand up dry ****.

I'm in the Bay so if I'm not freakin a girl I'm dancin by myself Mac Dre status. Thizz Dancin n whatnot.

just feel the beat in your body. Bop your head to the beat and get your chest into it, don't move your feet to much until you really get the hang of it.

oh and if she gets down to a squat while you're behind her, get down on her level and post out behind you with one arm so you don't fall back. Let her grind on you is all you really gotta do, follow her hips with your own so it isn't as bumpy.
 
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