You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Just google it man. Its easy. Hopes this helpsWebsite I googled said:Just in case you’re a total newb, to grind, one person leads and the other follows.
The leader “makes up” the dance that you do, (moving your hips in circles, bobbing back and forth, w/e)
and the follower copies them.
So, if the girl is leading, and she is making circles with her hips and her back is to you, you would just copy her.
But if you are face to face, you would do the opposite, (when she moves her hip back, you move yours forward)
Of course, you both could just move your hips back and forth snapping your fingers.
Just have fun.
Now onto dancing.
If you have a full length mirror, it’s perfect for this.
Start by simply moving your hips left to right.
Part 1:Side to Side
Ok…
Now this time, move your hips by bending your knees.
Just like walking without taking your feet off the ground.
This knee bending is how you should move your hips,
(of course you can add hips to it later on)
For a good example of this, you can go here, watch how the knees move the hips
http://www.bustamove.com/cgi-bin/scripts/free.pl?d=salsa&m=16
You can also snap your fingers and add a “pop” to your hip movements.
Remember, the knees move the hips
Part 2: Hip circles
Now we add a little hip movement.
For the basic idea of this, think of hula hoops.
Start off by moving side to side, (from above)
Except this time, roll your hips so your waist goes right-to-front-to-left (stretch forward like your sticking your crotch out in front)
and come back, left-to-front-to-right so you’ll be making half-circles.
Your hips should do the forward-backward movement, while your knees do the left-right movement
Then, after you’ve done that for a while, go back instead of front… (stretch your waist back like you’re sticking your ass out behind you)
so you’ll go right-to-back-to left and then left-to-back-to-right to make half circles.
And finally, when you’ve done that for a while, combine the last two excersises by making full circles.
Remember to move your hips with your knees. And practice both clockwise and counter-clockwise.
Remember to practice slowly and smoothly. And slowly speed up.
Now for this part, start by moving side to side, except lower your body slowly like your crouching, and then come back up.
Part 3: Going down
Then do this with the hip circle excercises.
When you do this, you’ll probably have to just move with your hips and ankles since your knees are already bent.
As for the hands, always move them slowly. And if you’re in a club, NEVER PUT YOUR HANDS WAY UP INTO THE AIR.
It’s a big sign that your a newb. But if your at home or just messing around, go for it.
Part 4: The Hands
But in a club, if your gonna hold your hands up, hold them up about ear height like your raising your elbows.
Here are some more ideas.
-your hands on her waist, her arms around your neck
-your hands behind your back
-one hand on her hip and the other on her shoulder
-if it’s someone your close with, you can get nose to nose with her holding her waist or have a hand on her cheek.
-if she has her back to you, you can hold one of her hands on her waist, and the other behind her head.
Use your imagination
If your dancing solo, or you and your partner aren’t holding,
-snap your fingers
-move them up and down like your jogging
-hold them up (ear height)
-hold your hips
-let them hang
-have one hand snap while the other holds the waist
Again, just use your imagination
As for feet, start by planting your feet just more than shoulder length.
DON’T MOVE THEM, KEEP THEM PLANTED.
The most common thing to do is to put your right leg between hers, or to put both of yours between both of hers.
But you can always get creative ; )
Part 5: The Feet
Well there you go, Grinding 101, remember to always stay with the beat and let the music take control.
Good Luck
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.