You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Just google it man. Its easy. Hopes this helpsWebsite I googled said:Just in case you’re a total newb, to grind, one person leads and the other follows.
The leader “makes up” the dance that you do, (moving your hips in circles, bobbing back and forth, w/e)
and the follower copies them.
So, if the girl is leading, and she is making circles with her hips and her back is to you, you would just copy her.
But if you are face to face, you would do the opposite, (when she moves her hip back, you move yours forward)
Of course, you both could just move your hips back and forth snapping your fingers.
Just have fun.
Now onto dancing.
If you have a full length mirror, it’s perfect for this.
Start by simply moving your hips left to right.
Part 1:Side to Side
Ok…
Now this time, move your hips by bending your knees.
Just like walking without taking your feet off the ground.
This knee bending is how you should move your hips,
(of course you can add hips to it later on)
For a good example of this, you can go here, watch how the knees move the hips
http://www.bustamove.com/cgi-bin/scripts/free.pl?d=salsa&m=16
You can also snap your fingers and add a “pop” to your hip movements.
Remember, the knees move the hips
Part 2: Hip circles
Now we add a little hip movement.
For the basic idea of this, think of hula hoops.
Start off by moving side to side, (from above)
Except this time, roll your hips so your waist goes right-to-front-to-left (stretch forward like your sticking your crotch out in front)
and come back, left-to-front-to-right so you’ll be making half-circles.
Your hips should do the forward-backward movement, while your knees do the left-right movement
Then, after you’ve done that for a while, go back instead of front… (stretch your waist back like you’re sticking your ass out behind you)
so you’ll go right-to-back-to left and then left-to-back-to-right to make half circles.
And finally, when you’ve done that for a while, combine the last two excersises by making full circles.
Remember to move your hips with your knees. And practice both clockwise and counter-clockwise.
Remember to practice slowly and smoothly. And slowly speed up.
Now for this part, start by moving side to side, except lower your body slowly like your crouching, and then come back up.
Part 3: Going down
Then do this with the hip circle excercises.
When you do this, you’ll probably have to just move with your hips and ankles since your knees are already bent.
As for the hands, always move them slowly. And if you’re in a club, NEVER PUT YOUR HANDS WAY UP INTO THE AIR.
It’s a big sign that your a newb. But if your at home or just messing around, go for it.
Part 4: The Hands
But in a club, if your gonna hold your hands up, hold them up about ear height like your raising your elbows.
Here are some more ideas.
-your hands on her waist, her arms around your neck
-your hands behind your back
-one hand on her hip and the other on her shoulder
-if it’s someone your close with, you can get nose to nose with her holding her waist or have a hand on her cheek.
-if she has her back to you, you can hold one of her hands on her waist, and the other behind her head.
Use your imagination
If your dancing solo, or you and your partner aren’t holding,
-snap your fingers
-move them up and down like your jogging
-hold them up (ear height)
-hold your hips
-let them hang
-have one hand snap while the other holds the waist
Again, just use your imagination
As for feet, start by planting your feet just more than shoulder length.
DON’T MOVE THEM, KEEP THEM PLANTED.
The most common thing to do is to put your right leg between hers, or to put both of yours between both of hers.
But you can always get creative ; )
Part 5: The Feet
Well there you go, Grinding 101, remember to always stay with the beat and let the music take control.
Good Luck
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.