That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
At least when i make an attempt to flame i can spell it correctly; it is pretentious.OTB said:Tekniq, let's try not to be as much of a pretenious douche as you are in real life! (no offense of course)![]()
You should definitely tell your neighbours about it, those are the crowds that tend to call the police on parties.nikko49 said:hehe. very nice.
the party's gonna be on october 4. should i tell my neighbors that i am having one, so they can prepare for the noise? my 'hood' is upper-middle class and split between elderly people and families with kids.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Yeah, serve alcohol next time. Buy a keg and spread the word that you're gonna have a keg. You'll have all kinds of people at your party.nikko49 said:Any tips for getting more people/making more people come?
Lmao, that reminds me of something that happened to me a few weeks ago.OTB said:Fuking pigs! -----> As if they have nothing else better to do than stop a bunch of kids from having a good time! :box:
Yep, the evils of alcohol are without any doubt, the greatest threat facing Americas youth today *sigh*![]()
As was actually relaxing at Brighton Beach several weeks ago and lo & behold what do I see?
Two teenage kids (about 15 or 16) get handcuffed for doing the malicious deed of drinking a bottle of beer outside -----> not to mention there were dirty street vendors basically harassing ever single person they could lay their eyes upon into buying it
(and who would expect 2 16 year old boys from turning that gracious offer down?)
But that's still not the best part! ------> Whithin a matter of about 40 minutes / an hour, there were about 3 - 4 police SUVs and even a small mobile command center encircling them!I kid you not!
This is probably the exact reason why all the murders and other dangerous criminals are running around the street while all the public enemies composed of minors drinking alcohol are firmliy under control..... Sad but true...![]()
All I can say right now is:
EPIC FAIL
(At least that's my experience with the NYPD outside of Manhattan) :trouble: