"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dance Classes
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
sketchy
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Rayneveres
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
sketchy
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what state are you from? in new york city women love guys that can dance salsa. when they play it at the club you cant fist pump, and pulling out a girl to dance salsa is a great opener as many guys cant or are scared to look like an idiot, women love to dance it.rocksoff said:
rushing dude 123
Master Don Juan
1. you can increase kino very easily
2. you got a easy subject to run off in a conversation
3. there is a lot more single women there than there is guys and they will all be fighting for you as a partner
4. good rapport is usually built with saying very little and you can usually number close quite easy after its over
5. they see you with a guy who actually wants to improve himself and has something going on his life, rather than being some desperate guy on the hunt who revolves his life around women rather than the other way around.
I went to swing classes and from my experience is actually one of the easiest succesful ways to meet women in my opinion. I think salsa will be better for ya though bro, those latina chicas may be interesting.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Why would you take classes on how to dance when nobody dances now a days? What you see in a club is not dancing (unless it's a latin/country club). You don't need to take dancing lessons to go to a club, stand in the dance floor and start grinding with some sloot to the beat of rap/house music. I don't know how to dance but I used to go to the club every weekend and would end up grinding with some babes, no lessons needed. Anybody can do the 2 step or whatever you call it.
Instead of wanting to take dance classes to get girls why don't you take classes in something manly? Take boxing lessons for example. You not only get stronger and get good exercise but you learn to protect yourself and others. Women want guys that are strong and that they get a feeling of being protected with.
You will definitely impress girls at clubs if you can dance well after having taken lessons but the thing is it really isn't necessary to do it.
Mistic
Senior Don Juan
To be a good salsa dancer as a guy, you need to know how to lead. It is a rough kind of forceful dance, and it is latin, so you can be certain that even if it looks kinda gay, there is nothing unmanly about salsa. I've spent a lot of time in latin countries, so I know the basics. If you are ever south of the border and want to pick up in the clubs, you better know salsa.
SandHawk
Master Don Juan
Later I started dancing salsa and I recently returned to dancing ballroom/latin again. Trust me, all the girls think I'm so awfully gay that they do nothing but flirt me. I've made out with 2 girls from my dance classes in the first 3 months of the classes and recently I've been having quite some good rapport with 2 others. During the salsa classes I banged 1 chick but that's because the group mainly consisted of girls over 30.
Dance classes *ARE* a good way to learn new girls, but as said by others, do it to learn to dance. You can use your moves on the dance floor in a club, or just show girls how to dance a bit. It's great kino, easy to escalate and collecting numbers *IS* easy as hell. I got some pretty slick dancing moves I can use on the dance floor, and even if none of the girls are interesting, you can hook up with them, take em to a club and do a bit of dirty dancing with em. Social proof that will pull outsider girls into your group pretty quickly, and with a wing you can isolate them.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.