She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
ShortyMac said:because I had a good steak that means I am not telling the truth.
That is funny.
Yes so what if I banged her roomate the next night. Remember one thing girls are jealous and they dont like to see another girl have one up on her.
I have never dated a girl where one of her "friends" didnt try to bang me. I know it wasnt because she liked me or was into me. It was her "ace in the hole" if she ever got in a fight with her friend she could say I banged your man
Women a re just like men in that they are competitive. Men do it in sports, t work, physically. Women do it socially, with shoes, purses, and the men they are dateing. Ever here a bunch of girls rip one of their friends apart after she walks away because of the shirt she has on? Women are just catty that way
The sooner you all realize that the better
As for telling you what I did. I can give you the step by step, the play by play, but that wont help.
There is no formula. What works on one will not work on another. There is no "recipie" to getting a girl.
"SoSuave" is just what is says. "Suave" Be cool, be CONFIDENT (most important). and Just go with the flow. Read the signals and act accordingly.
Saying there is a formula for picking up a girl is like saying there is a formula for winning a fight.
Not every opponet is going to attack you the same way, not everyone leads with a left jab, some might kick, some might bite.
The only weapon you can have that is universal is a good defense, know how to protect yourself, and be keen enough to anticipate your opponents next move and be quick enough to defend accordingly and "counter attack"
It may be a poor analogy, but the same goes for chatting up women.
One may be a ball buster, one may be quiet and reserved.
Just do what "Suave" means and be cool and go with the flow.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.