I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
ShortyMac said:because I had a good steak that means I am not telling the truth.
That is funny.
Yes so what if I banged her roomate the next night. Remember one thing girls are jealous and they dont like to see another girl have one up on her.
I have never dated a girl where one of her "friends" didnt try to bang me. I know it wasnt because she liked me or was into me. It was her "ace in the hole" if she ever got in a fight with her friend she could say I banged your man
Women a re just like men in that they are competitive. Men do it in sports, t work, physically. Women do it socially, with shoes, purses, and the men they are dateing. Ever here a bunch of girls rip one of their friends apart after she walks away because of the shirt she has on? Women are just catty that way
The sooner you all realize that the better
As for telling you what I did. I can give you the step by step, the play by play, but that wont help.
There is no formula. What works on one will not work on another. There is no "recipie" to getting a girl.
"SoSuave" is just what is says. "Suave" Be cool, be CONFIDENT (most important). and Just go with the flow. Read the signals and act accordingly.
Saying there is a formula for picking up a girl is like saying there is a formula for winning a fight.
Not every opponet is going to attack you the same way, not everyone leads with a left jab, some might kick, some might bite.
The only weapon you can have that is universal is a good defense, know how to protect yourself, and be keen enough to anticipate your opponents next move and be quick enough to defend accordingly and "counter attack"
It may be a poor analogy, but the same goes for chatting up women.
One may be a ball buster, one may be quiet and reserved.
Just do what "Suave" means and be cool and go with the flow.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.