"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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damn he beat me to it

Crazy Asian

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alright there's a girl that i like and we're both 15. i like her and i think she likes me too. but this other guy asked her to the dance and i know that she's like totally in love with him. i just can't get this off my mind. should i tell her about how i really feel or just let them be?

and it's not like i have a whole line of girls waiting for me.....i dunno why but the 2 of us just have fun together and i don't have to try at all, everything just comes naturally with her.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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read the DJ Bible about 'oneitis'
 

Crazy Asian

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where's the DJ bible?
 

Crazy Asian

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oneitis?
wuts that?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Interceptor

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CA,

You have to decide for yourself if sh is worth it.

Let's look at something:


You have decided that YOU WANT HER.
Great. You make a move "Listen, babe. I know butthead asked you to the dance. But you don't want that guy. I want to go out with you. I'm your guy, babe. Go with me, babe. I know I'm ten times more fun than blowhard over there. Come on, babe. Come with me. We will have fun together. I WANT to have fun with YOU, babe. Forget that guy. You're coming with me. Because I know you like excitement"
Said with congruent tone of voive, eye contact, kino, and strong direct body language,. Smooth, syuave, confident. You are mutherfvkin' James Bond, man.
Direct. Decisive. And stong and confident approach.

Pros: Direct and to the point. You are stating clearly what you want. Chicks love confidence and they are attracted to guys who "know what they want."

Cons: Rejection. She has stronger attraction to El Chumpo Grande, and NOT you. You are direct, so will she. You may get the DIRECT reject.

But NOW you KNOW........

"make the ho say no" This is what we want.
That way, we can move on with no regrets. Ever.
That way...you act like a MAN with VISION.


Be indirect.

"Hey, I heard the dance is really gonna be fun this year. I really want to go. But I haven't fopund adate yet. I've already asked Jane, mary, and Sally..but they said they either weren;t going or they already have a date. Hey, what are YOU doing that night?"

Meh. Not that strong,. More cautious. Allows her to be cautious too. May look weak, like you're trying to spare yourself rejection. Not so great. I mena..NOT horrible. But not that great IMO.

Pros: Suave. Tactful. Can be well meaning, and said in a nice, but confident manner. With good body language and eye contact and tone of voice, could result. But not that powerful. She may still reject,. but she may be softer with you.
Cons: Looks a littel weak. Still a big margin for error, since it doesn't mask insecurity as well, It's indirect, so somewhat "shady" and timid looking.



Or..

Ignore them, and find another chick. Even if it's an HB5-7.

WHy?

Because as true DJs, we appreciate all women. We enjoy life, and enjoy life with a woman on our arms. ANd a smile on our face even with ANY woman on our arm.
The social vlaue is great. Your self esteem will be boosted, and social proof will be solid and concrete. Self evident.
YOu will still have a good time. And the H5-7 may be more grateful and appreciative of you askinhg HER out. Since no othe rguy did. But you.the true Don Juan..whom appreciates all Ladies, and the COmpany of WOmen...AKSED HER OUT>

Gold, man.
Pure gold.

You still win.Understand?

And there's the final option.

Stay home and whack off while you b*tch and moan about them.
Making yourself angry and bitter and resentful. While they are out havuing a good time. You're home angry and isolated.

Pros: NONE

CONS: You suck. And you accept defeat, loser.

You know what to do.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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